Everyone is talking about living the soft life—but are we really prioritizing rest, or just avoiding discomfort? In this episode, we break down the difference between intentional rest and avoidance disguised as self-care.

We dig into the real reasons behind burnout, why many of us feel guilty about resting, and how to unlearn the hustle mentality without falling into the trap of avoidance. Plus, we play a fun game of Soft or Lazy? to explore where we personally draw the line between self-care and just not wanting to do hard things.

If you’ve ever felt like taking a break makes you lazy or struggled with balancing productivity and well-being, this episode is for you.

Key Discussion Points:

• What the soft life actually means vs. how it’s portrayed online.
• A fun game of Soft or Lazy? where we read different scenarios, and the other decides if it’s self-care or just avoidance.
• The psychology of avoidance and how to tell if you’re actually resting or just procrastinating.
• What true self-care looks like—beyond bubble baths and spa days.
• Balancing productivity and softness: Can we actually have both?
  
  

Takeaways:

• Rest is not just about stopping work—it’s about replenishing your energy intentionally.
• Avoidance often looks like self-care but leaves you feeling more stressed in the long run.
• Finding a balance means setting boundaries, understanding your energy cycles, and redefining success.
• Living the soft life doesn’t mean avoiding responsibility—it’s about designing a life that prioritizes well-being.

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