Why is it so difficult to rest - even when we’re exhausted and know we need it?

In this episode, Diane explores why rest doesn’t come naturally to every nervous system, and why struggling to slow down is not a flaw, but an intelligent adaptation to earlier experiences.

You’ll hear about:

• why rest can feel uncomfortable or unsafe for some people

• how productivity can be a nervous system pattern rather than a mindset

• common ways we may have learned that stopping wasn’t safe

• why telling yourself to “just relax” so often backfires

• how deep rest supports regulation, repair, and resilience

This is not a guided exercise or hypnotherapy session.

It’s a reflective, informative episode designed to help you understand your relationship with rest - and to normalise experiences many people quietly struggle with.

Diane also briefly mentions her Deep Rest Is Productive hypnotherapy audio, created for people who find rest hard to access through effort alone. The episode itself stands on its own, whether or not you choose to explore that next step.

At the end of the episode, Diane shares what’s coming up next on the podcast, including a deeper look at why safety comes before change.

If rest feels hard, nothing is wrong with you. Your nervous system may simply be doing what it learned to do.

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The festive season can be complicated when you’re carrying grief or emotional heaviness. While the world becomes brighter, louder, and busier, your inner world may feel quieter, tender, or out of step with the celebrations around you.

In this episode, we talk gently about the many shapes grief can take; from bereavement to life transitions, relationship changes, burnout, identity shifts and the quiet losses we don’t always recognise as grief.

You’ll hear compassionate reassurance that:

• your feelings make sense
• there is no timeline for grief
• nothing is wrong with you
• you’re allowed to honour what’s true for you this season
• you don’t need to force joy, energy, or togetherness

We also explore how the pressure to “be festive” can intensify emotional pain, and how giving yourself permission to step back or soften expectations can bring a sense of steadiness.

Toward the end, there’s a short grounding moment, not to change how you feel, but to support your nervous system gently.

Listen in for warmth, validation, and the reminder that you’re not alone in this.

If you’re looking for deeper support, you’ll also hear about my new 20-minute hypnotherapy audio, A Gentle Space for Heavy Hearts. It's available in both English (Scottish accent) and Shetland dialect. It’s created as a safe, soothing place to rest with whatever still feels tender, without pressure or emotional demands.

🔗Links Mentioned in This Episode

A Gentle Space for Heavy Hearts - Hypnotherapy Audio
20-minute support for grief, loss & emotional heaviness
Available in English or Shetland dialect
£14.99 each - Purchase Here

Anxiety often ignores logic.

You can tell yourself “I’m fine… nothing’s wrong…” yet your body refuses to settle.

This episode of The Shetland Resolve Calm-Cast explains why that happens, and introduces a simple physical anchoring technique that helps your nervous system find calm even when your mind is spiralling.

You’ll learn:

• why anxious brains don’t respond to reasoning

• why the body often reacts like a startled animal

• the science behind physical anchors

• how bringing finger and thumb together can settle your system

• how to practise the anchor anywhere, privately and calmly

• how the nervous system learns faster through sensation than thinking

• why hypnosis strengthens the anchor and makes calm more automatic

This episode has everything you need to get started.

And if you’d like to deepen the technique so the anchor becomes effortless and reliable, you can explore the Anchored Calm hypnotherapy audio inside the Shetland Resolve audio library

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