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In this throwback episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, I delve into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. We cover several key points, including the failure of sex education to address pleasure, the importance of self pleasure, the need for detailed anatomical knowledge, and the impact of societal shame on sexual well-being.

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If sex after kids feels confusing, inconsistent, or like your body just isn't responding the way it used to — you're not broken.

Many women experience low desire, slower arousal, discomfort during sex, or a loss of libido during perimenopause and after having children. But most couples aren't taught how intimacy changes during this stage of life — so they assume something is wrong with the relationship.

In this episode, we talk about what's actually happening with desire, arousal, and intimacy after kids and during perimenopause — and how to stop fumbling in the dark.

You'll learn:

• Why libido and arousal change after kids and in perimenopause
• The difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire
• How "Gold Dates" vs. "Data Dates" can reduce pressure around sex
• How to use Pleasure Mapping to rebuild intimacy without performance
• The biggest mistake couples make when trying to "fix" low desire
• How expanding your definition of sex increases connection and pleasure

If you're navigating low libido, mismatched desire, painful sex, or emotional distance after kids — this episode will help you understand what’s happening and what to do next.

And if you're ready to move from understanding to practice, you can grab the Colour Me Curious workshop replay for $27 (limited-time).

Inside the workshop, you'll get:

• Guided Pleasure Mapping exercises
• Communication scripts for talking about sex without blame
• Pre-date tools to reduce anxiety
• A structured framework for rebuilding intimacy after kids and during perimenopause

Instead of guessing, you'll have a clear starting point.

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Your sex life doesn't need more pressure.
It needs better information — and a safer way to explore together.

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If sex feels like a chore in your 40s or 50s, you're not broken.

In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we're unpacking why desire disappears during perimenopause — even when love hasn't — and how to reconnect with intimacy without pushing through pain or guilt.

You'll learn:

• How hormone shifts impact desire, arousal, and lubrication
• Why stress and mental load can shut pleasure down
• The "stress-sex loop" that makes everything harder (literally and emotionally)
• How orgasm can support your health — when it's actually wanted
• The one shift that helped me move out of a six-month dry spell

Whether you're feeling disconnected from your sex drive, worried sex will hurt, or supporting a partner through these changes — this episode is for you.

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