This week's Trap Talk question comes from a mum of three who says:

"Parenting mainly falls on my shoulders because my husband works a lot, and we've kind of agreed that what I say goes. But honestly, that feels like a huge responsibility. I constantly feel like I need to say the right thing and do the right thing, and with my older two children I feel like we're forever coming to blows. I spend so much time worrying about whether I'm getting it right and trying to work out the best way to handle things.

I've listened to The Thought Trap from the beginning, and I'm getting a real feel for how we work as human beings, but I'm struggling to see how any of this applies to parenting. In a world full of parenting books, experts and advice, how do I know what to do? And how do I stop carrying the weight of feeling responsible for everyone being okay?"

Listen to the episode to see how I speak to this......

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As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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We all have ideas about who we are. "I'm just the way I am." "I've always been like this." "It's in my makeup." But where did those ideas come from in the first place? In this episode of The Thought Trap, I explore how the stories we hold about ourselves are often built from experiences, comments, interpretations and repeated thoughts that, over time, begin to feel like facts.

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👉Episode 47 (Apple)://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-47-the-emotional-identity-trap-the-thought-trap/id1801723772?i=1000752964486

👉Episode 47 (Spotify) https://open.spotify.com/episode/1HUdrmDPqLqgMs2Jrob7il?si=3db1da3408244555

"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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In today episode, I want to talk about what was probably my biggest coping mechanism for many years: reassurance. But while reassurance happened to be mine, this episode isn't really about reassurance. It's about coping mechanisms in general. The things we reach for when we don't feel okay. The things that seem to help, at least for a while. The things that promise relief, comfort, certainty, or distraction. Because whether it's reassurance, Googling, scrolling, keeping busy, planning, checking, avoiding, eating, drinking, or endlessly trying to work something out, most of us have something we turn to when life feels uncomfortable. And understanding what was really happening beneath my coping mechanism changed everything for me and those that I work with.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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