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Every January, we make resolutions with the best intentions — and by February, most of them are gone.

In this episode, we talk about why New Year’s resolutions fail so often — and how the mental load plays a bigger role than we realize. Instead of just sharing what we want to change this year, we do something different: we talk about how we’re going to support each other in actually making those changes stick.

From exercising regularly and getting organized, to creating real quality time and sharing the invisible work of planning, remembering, and managing — this conversation is about shifting resolutions from solo effort to shared responsibility.

If you’ve ever abandoned a goal because life got busy, exhaustion took over, or the mental load crowded it out, this episode is for you.

We want to hear from you:
What’s your New Year’s resolution — and what kind of support would help you keep it?

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The holidays are over. They were wonderful. So why are we exhausted?

In this episode, we’re recapping what really happened over Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, and Christmas: what went well, what quietly drained our energy, and what we didn’t fully anticipate about traveling, togetherness, and family dynamics.

From packing presents across time zones to navigating expectations when vacationing with family, we talk honestly about the invisible mental load that shows up even when things are “good.” We unpack why travel can make holidays feel harder, how simplifying meals and gifts helped, and what we’d do differently next year.

If your holidays weren’t magical — or they were great and exhausting — this conversation is for you. You’re not broken. Or maybe you are? Listen until the end to get that joke ;)

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Sometimes the mental load looks like powering through. And sometimes it looks like knowing when to pause.

We planned new episodes for the end of the year — and then real life happened. Energy ran out. The calendar filled up. The load showed up.

So we’re taking a short break and will be back in January with new conversations about sharing the work, the weight, and the invisible labor of family life.

Thanks for being here — and for understanding that rest is part of the work, too.

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Sick days, snow days, thank-you notes, tooth fairies, parenting possession arrows, and yes… the moment one partner wonders what their legs would look like in high heels.

We’re revisiting the Magic Deck—the cards that shape the “fun” and “meaning” parts of family life—and asking what’s working, what’s slipping, and what still needs a major reboot.

In this episode, we dig into:
– Why sick days and school closures keep defaulting to the same parent
– How middle-of-the-night wakeups reveal so much about load coordination
– The chaos of thank-you notes (and why a simple sign-in sheet could save us)
– Tooth fairies, Santa season, and the emotional labor of magical beings
– The mental load of gifts—birthday, holiday, extended family, VIPs
– How we’re using a parenting possession arrow to make sick-day decisions more fair
– Which “shared” cards we actually share… and which ones need a tune-up

It’s honest, funny, painfully relatable, and a true behind-the-scenes look at how magical moments actually get made—and why they sometimes fall apart in spectacular fashion.

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This week, we’re taking you inside our Thanksgiving trip to Disney World — a vacation that somehow became our most relaxed Disney trip yet… even with strep throat, checklist mishaps, extended family dynamics, and a whole lot of mental load along the way.

We unpack the real moments parents know too well:
• the fridge “celery incident” that wasn’t actually about celery
• why handing off tasks before a trip is so tricky
• the tiny gestures that make all the difference (yes, including the last dry towel)
• the emotional weight of trying to meet everyone’s expectations, from kids to grandparents
• and the magic that shifts as kids grow up and can finally ride everything

For the first time ever, we also recorded “Disney diaries” — little audio clips from the trip — and we react to them together. Spoiler: He was right about the quiet room.

Whether you’re a Disney regular, a theme-park newbie, or someone who just wants to feel seen in the chaos of family travel, this episode is a warm and honest look at how vacations evolve — and how sharing the load evolves with them.

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In this pre-holiday episode, we ask each other quick-hit questions about the holidays: what we dread, what overwhelms us, which traditions matter, and where we inevitably stumble into marriage dynamics.

We talk about the chaos of decorating, the emotional weight of making the season “magical,” the guilt around traditions, the blessing and burnout of family expectations, and what it feels like to navigate this season in an interfaith home.

Whether you’re juggling latkes, wrapping paper, overloaded calendars, or kids who just really need a cuddle — you’ll hear pieces of your own December in this conversation.

Plus: We want your rapid-fire answers! Email us or tag us on Instagram — your moments, meltdowns, and wins help us keep this movement going.

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This Thanksgiving week, we’re doing something a little different. Guided by our teenage daughter, we sat down for a real “getting to know us” Q&A.

In this heartfelt conversation, we reflect on 21 years of marriage, raising three kids across three very different life stages, our career paths, our hopes for the future, and the gifts of the “good old days” we’re living in right now. Along the way, you’ll hear the true story of how we ended up getting married in South Korea, why the proposal is still a running joke, and what it feels like watching our oldest prepare to leave for college.

It’s honest, funny, unexpectedly emotional — and a sweet reminder of why we started The Mental Load Chronicles in the first place: to tell the truth about family life, partnership, and the moments that make us who we are.

Chapters

00:00 Intro & why our daughter is taking over
00:30 Why this Q&A matters right now
01:02 How long we’ve been married (the complicated answer)
02:00 Why we got legally married in South Korea
03:40 The “Amazing Race: Wedding Edition”
05:00 Two anniversaries & one very stamped marriage license
06:20 The proposal story (and why it’s still a running joke)
09:30 How the ring actually came to be
12:20 Balancing careers, degrees & life in the early years
14:45 What we both do for a living
15:24 The “how we met” story we won’t be telling
16:00 Our daughter going to college: excitement + heartbreak
17:20 Parenting across three life stages
18:20 One thing you should know about each of us
21:00 Saying meaningful things about each other (cue emotions)
23:30 What we’re grateful for this season
24:43 Outro & an invitation to share your questions

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This week, we’re talking about the mental load of gift giving — and how to make it meaningful without the guilt, pressure, or drama.

From the emotional labor of shopping, wrapping, and remembering everyone’s favorites, to the art of giving gifts that actually land, we’re sharing our best hits (and a few epic misses — looking at you, “urine-be-gone”).

We’ll walk through ideas for gifts that say “I see you” — from Fair Play bundles to self-care packages, stress-free travel plans, and even fitness gifts that don’t backfire — all designed to help couples reconnect and rebalance during the holidays.

🎁 Explore the full gift guide at www.mentalloadchronicles.com/holidaygiftguide

Chapters

00:00 Welcome & Why Gift Giving Carries a Mental Load
02:00 Gift Giving Fails: Urine-Be-Gone and the Vacuum
04:30 How to Give Gifts That Don’t Feel Like Chores
06:00 The Fair Play + Skylight Calendar Bundle
09:15 Why Feeling Seen Is the Ultimate Gift
10:30 The Gift of Rest & Self-Care
14:00 When Sentimentality Becomes Storage
16:00 The Spa Day Story (and When to Tell vs. Surprise)
18:45 The Gift of Stress-Free Travel
21:30 Letting Go of Control (and Letting Your Partner Help)
23:00 The Gift of Effortless Fitness (Without Offense)
25:50 Experience Gifts for Parents & Grandparents
28:10 Wrapping Up: The True Meaning Behind a Great Gift

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