A coaching podcast with Heike Aiello and Tobias Weghorn about how to stop coaching in the problem space—and instead use appreciative coaching to expand what already works. Heike shares why she considers it “unethical to coach the problem,” and walks you through the appreciative inquiry coaching process: define, discover, dream, design, destiny (Discover, Dream, Design, Destiny). You’ll hear how to use generative coaching questions to move clients out of the “shadow” of the issue and into a more resourceful state, plus a short coaching demo where Heike coaches Tobi on making confident choices. If you want to learn coaching that creates energy (not just analysis), this episode is your playbook.

Key Learnings:

• Use appreciative coaching to reframe the client’s problem as data, then shift into a clear “what do you really want?” statement before you do any deep exploration.
• Run a simple Discover → Dream → Design → Destiny flow: collect “green dot” evidence in Discover, then turn it into future images and small learning experiments—especially when clients feel stuck.
• Craft 2–3 generative coaching questions (not “root cause” questions) that connect past success to next steps, and use “3 minutes / 30 minutes / 3 hours / 3 days / 3 weeks” prompts to make action inevitable.

Resources:

• Heike Aiello's Website: https://www.coreconnect.today/
• Heike Aiello's LinkedIn: https://de.linkedin.com/in/heikeaiello
• AIP Practitioner (Appreciative Inquiry Practitioner Magazine): https://aipractitioner.com/
• Find your Coaching Tool: https://metaFox.eu
• Try the metaFox Strengths Discovery: https://strengths-discovery.com
• Connect with Tobi on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/tobiasweghorn

Episode Chapters:

00:01 Appreciative Coaching vs. Coaching the Problem

00:02 Discover, Dream, Design, Destiny (Appreciative Inquiry Coaching Process)

00:07 Step Out of the “Shadow”: From Problem to Desired Future

00:11 Destiny in Practice: Learning Experiments, Tracking, and Fanning

00:26 Coaching Demo: Making Choices Without Regret

00:44 The Anticipatory Principle and Visualizing the Future

00:47 Generative Coaching Questions and the Five AI Principles

00:52 Making Room for the Shadow (Not “Happy Clappy”)

00:58 Where to Learn Appreciative Inquiry (AI Commons, AIP, TAOS)

A coaching podcast with Sandra Megahed and Tobias Weghorn, where we unpack a The Work (Byron Katie) coaching demo and why “presence comes first” even when you’re following a clear method. Sandra introduces Inquiry-Based Stress Reduction (IBSR), walks through the four questions and turnarounds, and shares how she integrates embodied coaching (body and breath) to make inquiry more effective. You’ll also hear a live mini-session on limiting beliefs about belonging and inclusion, and how a small everyday trigger can open up a big shift. If you want to learn coaching tools you can use on yourself first, this episode is a practical starting point.

Key Learnings:

• Use The Work (Byron Katie) coaching demo structure to turn a stressful moment into a clear inquiry: pick one specific situation, write the thought, then go through the four questions and turnarounds without over-explaining.
• When applying Inquiry-Based Stress Reduction (IBSR), slow down question 3 (“How do you react?”) and add embodied coaching prompts (body and breath) to access sensations, images, and impulses before trying to “solve” anything.
• For limiting beliefs about belonging and inclusion, test turnarounds with real examples (to self, to the other, and opposite) to create options beyond the original story and reconnect to the state you actually want (lightness, connection).

Resources:

• The Work (Byron Katie) Worksheets: https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/
• Loving What Is (Byron Katie): https://thework.com/loving-what-is/
• Tiger, Tiger, Is It True? (Byron Katie): https://thework.com/tiger-tiger-is-it-true/
• Find your Coaching Tool: https://metaFox.eu
• Try the metaFox Strengths Discovery: https://strengths-discovery.com
• Connect with Tobi on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/tobiasweghorn

• Interview with Dr. Ann Krispenz on Self-Inquiry / IBSR: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nsGoXCKlvMc&t=2675shttps://open.spotify.com/show/6lJcPsOO4odS1q61eq4W8f

• Free workbook from the University of Bern on IBSR for exam anxiety and university stress: ⁠https://www.edu.unibe.ch/unibe/portal/fak_humanwis/philhum_institute/inst_paed/content/e66/e47318/e293954/e293973/e1227969/IBSR-ArbeitsbuchKrispenzetal.2020_ger.pdf⁠

• ⁠https://www.ibsr.ch/⁠

• Book "Tiger, Tiger, ist das wahr?" ("Tiger-Tiger, Is It True?") by Byron Katie and Hans Wilhelm: ⁠https://www.amazon.de/Tiger-Tiger-Fragen-wieder-l%C3%A4cheln-lassen/dp/3981175271⁠

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Presence Comes First (Even With A Method)

01:07 What Is The Work (Byron Katie) / IBSR?

02:00 The Four Questions And Turnarounds Overview

06:00 Sandra’s Path: Research Mindset, Health Challenge, Daily Practice

11:20 How IBSR Works: Self-Inquiry, Yes/No, And The Body

19:00 How To Choose A Thought (Lists, Feelings, Pictures, Breath)

24:00 Coaching Demo: Belonging, Inclusion, And A Small Real-Life Trigger

31:00 Question 3: Reactions, Body Sensations, And What It Costs

37:00 Turnarounds Practice (To Self, To Other, Opposite)

52:00 Using IBSR In Business Coaching (And Staying In Scope)

58:00 Start By Practicing On Yourself + Recommended Resources

A coaching podcast with Yatish Chandrasekhar and Tobias Weghorn about coaching skills through the lens of Indian scriptures and modern coaching. Yatish, an ICF PCC coach educator from Bengaluru and the mind behind the Yogi Compass, shares why he believes India didn’t “catch up” with coaching—it’s been practicing it for thousands of years through dialogue-based teaching. Together, they connect the ICF core competencies to stages of learning like listening (Shravana), reflection (Manana), and contemplation (Nididhyasana), and explore coaching presence as a state of being rather than a technique. You’ll also hear practical ways to build a not knowing mindset—especially relevant in leader as coach conversations—using ideas like Sakshi Bhava (witness consciousness), silence, journaling, and breathwork.

Key Learnings:

• Treat coaching skills like listening, reflection, and contemplation as a sequence: listen fully (Shravana), hold silence to let Manana happen, then help the client translate insights into action (ICF core competencies 6–8).
• Build coaching presence by “tending to zero”: reduce your need to contribute, rescue, or impress, so the client experiences more psychological safety and does more of the meaning-making.
• Practice a not knowing mindset (especially as a leader as coach) by asking curiosity-from-wonder questions like, “If you were taking all the decisions, how would you do it?” instead of jumping to solutions.

Resources:

• Find your Coaching Tool: https://metaFox.eu
• Try the metaFox Strengths Discovery: https://strengths-discovery.com
• Connect with Tobi on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/tobiasweghorn

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Not Knowing Mindset and Curiosity in Coaching

01:00 Indian Scriptures Meet ICF Core Competencies

09:00 Shravana, Manana, Nididhyasana as Coaching Skills

13:00 Sakshi Bhava: Coaching Presence as Witness Consciousness

19:00 “Coach to Zero, Client to 100” and Psychological Safety

23:00 Leader as Coach: Shifting From Answers to Wonder

44:00 Mentor Coaching: Silence, Reflection, and Avoiding the “Fixing” Trap

47:00 Pranayama and Box Breathing to Access Presence