Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking,

“That didn’t come out the way I intended”?

Or noticed that no matter how logical or well-prepared you are, people still don’t fully trust, listen to, or connect with you?

The problem is rarely your intelligence or your communication skills.

It’s your Emotional Intelligence.

Today, I’ll show you what EQ really is, why it completely changes how people respond to you, and how you can start using it immediately — especially if you’re a professional or a leader.

Here is a podcast description optimized for Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and social sharing. It is written in your persona: the 54-year-old recovering performer who is done with the "Good Girl" act.

The Addiction to Approval: Why Your Opinion is the Only One That Matters

Are you still looking for the "Gold Star"?

For fifty-four years, I lived my life like a performance. I walked into every room—boardrooms, family gatherings, dinner parties—subconsciously scanning for approval. I was trained to be the "Good Girl." I thought that if you were happy with me, then I was safe.

But living for external validation is an exhausting addiction. It’s a drug that wears off in five minutes, leaving you desperate for the next hit.

In this episode, I’m getting honest about the "approval trap." I’m talking about the moment I realized that I could have a standing ovation from the world, but if I didn't like the woman in the mirror, none of it mattered.

We discuss:

• The Empty Mirror: Why compliments feel empty when you don't respect yourself.
• Survival Mode: Why self-approval isn't just "self-care"—it is critical for your emotional survival.
• The Committee: How to fire the judges in your head (parents, bosses, society) and hire yourself as the only verdict that counts.
• The Audit: A simple question to ask yourself to break the habit of people-pleasing.

If you are tired of dancing on a string for other people, this episode is for you. It’s time to stop waiting for applause and start liking yourself.

UPCOMING WEBINAR: The Changemaker Shift Are you ready to stop performing and start living a life that actually fits you? Join me LIVE on January 10th for The Changemaker Shift. We will dive deep into the tools you need to reclaim your time, your energy, and your identity. https://transform.theinfinitelearning.com/services/changemakerwebinar

How much of your life have you spent playing a character?

I am 54 years old. And when I look back at the last five decades, I have to confront a hard truth: For most of that time, I wasn't really there. I was performing.

I was the "Good Girl." I was the chameleon. I was whoever the room needed me to be—the perfect employee, the supportive partner, the rock for everyone else. I thought this was love. I thought this was what it meant to be a good person.

But the problem with performing is that the show never ends. And eventually, the energy runs out.

In this deeply personal episode, I open up about the exhaustion of living a life designed by other people’s expectations. I talk about the moment the mask became too heavy to carry, and the terrifying, beautiful process of meeting myself for the first time at 54.

We discuss:

• The Chameleon Effect: How we learn to shape-shift to stay safe and "convenient" for others.
• The Crash: What happens when your body and soul simply refuse to keep acting.
• The Un-Learning: Why finding yourself isn't about becoming someone new—it’s about stripping away everything that isn't you.
• The First Step: How to sit in the silence and finally hear your own voice.

If you feel like you are wearing a costume in your own life, this episode is your permission slip to take it off.

UPCOMING WEBINAR: The Changemaker Shift Are you ready to stop performing and start living a life that aligns with who you actually are? Join me LIVE on January 10th for The Changemaker Shift. We will dive deep into the practical tools to move from exhaustion to alignment.

https://transform.theinfinitelearning.com/services/changemakerwebinar