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The Grounded Union Podcast

The Grounded Union Podcast

Von: Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen
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 Welcome to the Grounded Union Podcast, hosted by Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen. In 2019, our marriage hit rock bottom—so close to divorce that we thought there was no way back. But through deep healing, transformation, and a relentless pursuit of something better, we didn’t just save our marriage—we created something more beautiful than we ever imagined. On our journey, we realized that the conventional advice from counselors, pastors, and mentors wasn’t enough. So, we set out on an uncharted path, searching for real, lasting change. Now, standing on the other side, we’ve mapped out the exact process that restored our love, trust, and connection—a process we weren’t given but one we discovered through lived experience. This podcast is our invitation to you: to walk this path with us, to challenge the norms, and to build a marriage that is passionate, open, honest, deeply connected, and full of life. No one told us it was possible—but we’re here to tell you: it absolutely is. Join us on this journey. It’s not just about saving your marriage—it’s about creating one that’s stronger, richer, and more alive than ever.© 2025 Grounded Union Beziehungen Persönliche Entwicklung Persönlicher Erfolg Sozialwissenschaften
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  • My Wife Forced Me to Come Clean About My Addiction

    My Wife Forced Me to Come Clean About My Addiction
    Feb 6 2026
    This week on The Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into the most vulnerable season finale yet with Jake and Ashley, a couple healing from ten years of hidden pornography addiction. Jake shares his journey from early confession and biblical counseling that didn't stick, to years of deception, to the traumatic revelation that nearly ended their marriage in 2023. Through two separations, Pure Desire recovery, recent relapses, and now daily vulnerability practices, they're discovering what true intimacy actually means. Brandon and Caitlyn unpack the neuroscience of addiction recovery, introduce the powerful Four R's framework (Recognize, Receive, Release, Replace), and explain why shame-based confession keeps couples stuck while ownership-based healing sets them free. Learn why your sexuality is deeply relational, how to calm your nervous system during the rewiring process, and the hope-filled truth that complete freedom from addiction is 100% possible.Looking for immediate support in your marriage?Grounded Union Couples App: Tap here to claim your spotWorkshops for Couples: Join the waitlist to get notifiedFollow us on social at @brandontalksmarriage & @caitlyn_doerksenCheck out our IG account to stay updated @groundedunionYouTube Show available hereTimestamps & Key Moments:00:00:36 – Season Finale Intro: Brandon and Caitlyn frame the conversation and welcome Jake & Ashley for the Season 3 finale.00:01:11 – The Crowbarred Confession: Jake reveals his addiction wasn't voluntarily confessed but was crowbarred out by Ashley in 2023 after nearly a decade of lies, manipulation, and hiding throughout their entire marriage.00:05:13 – Ashley's Late-Night Intuition: Ashley describes the night early in their marriage when she felt compelled to ask Jake about pornography—despite him denying it throughout their teenage relationship, he admitted he'd been addicted their entire relationship.00:08:32 – Pregnancy Crisis & False Assurance: Ashley explains her severe pregnancy condition requiring weekly hospitalizations while homeschooling four kids, feeling disconnected from Jake, but convincing herself "God did a miracle overnight" and he wouldn't relapse.00:13:02 – Redefining Lust and Sexual Desire: The conversation challenges traditional church definitions of lust, exposing how shame around sexual desire can create internal systems that protect secrecy.00:15:59 – The Denial Structure Framework: A spiritual category system (“between me and God”) is named as a hidden permission slip that keeps secrecy alive until it inevitably snowballs into relapse.00:19:04 – Doing What You’re Told Isn’t the Same as Healing: Freedom gets redefined from checklist obedience into building a vision for real marital union—and discarding any advice that doesn’t match that vision.00:23:07 – The Real Question: Why Share the Thought Life?: The conversation challenges the common fear that deeper disclosure “hurts her more,” arguing that unspoken loops and fantasies silently keep the betrayal system running.00:27:30 – Retraining the Reticular Activating System (RAS): Brandon shares a personal story of rewiring his mind during emotional exercises, explaining how he used the Four R's to retrain his brain's focus and data processing.00:32:20 – The Big Uglies vs. The Small Uglies: Focusing only on major behaviors while ignoring subtle thoughts, attractions, and dopamine hits is shown to be the very thing that fuels long-term relapse.00:40:12 – Personal Rewiring Journey: Brandon describes his own process of reporting every glance and objectifying thought to Caitlyn, demonstrating how he took ownership of his automated brain responses.00:46:45 – Collapsing the Denial Structure with Truth: Long-standing self-deception is dismantled by seeing every pattern, story, and justification clearly, leaving no space for hidden narratives.00:59:23 – 100% Healing is Possible: The hosts conclude the season with a passionate promise that anyone has the capability to 100% heal and rewire their brain, living a life entirely free from the curse of addiction.
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    1 Std. und 1 Min.
  • We Loved Each Other… but We Weren’t Telling the Truth

    We Loved Each Other… but We Weren’t Telling the Truth
    Jan 30 2026

    In this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into the messy, real, and sometimes painful truth behind connection, honesty, and intimacy in marriage. Brandon and Caitlyn sit down with Robert and Bri, a couple grappling with betrayal, disconnection, and the challenge of rebuilding trust while staying present. They explore how distractions, shame, and unmet needs can quietly erode love, and what it takes to bring curiosity, humor, and joy back into everyday life. Listeners hear raw reflections on navigating shame, reclaiming presence, and defining the “best version” of themselves and their marriages. With actionable guidance on aligning actions with values, embracing emotions rather than avoiding them, and reigniting spark and playfulness, this episode is a masterclass in transparent communication and intentional intimacy.

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    Check out our IG account to stay updated @groundedunion
    YouTube Show available here


    Timestamps & Key Moments:

    • 00:00:21 – Podcast Intro: Brandon and Caitlyn welcome Robert and Bri, framing the episode around love, truth, and disconnection.
    • 00:02:30 – Discovering the Addiction: Bri reveals discovering Robert’s porn addiction four months postpartum and the emotional impact of repeated relapses, including a brief affair and inappropriate photos.
    • 00:06:10 – Separation & Rebuilding Trust: Bri and Robert describe their recent one-week separation and the ongoing challenge of rebuilding trust and faith in their relationship.
    • 00:12:02 – Unified Vision for Marriage: Discussion on the transformative impact of the podcast and guidance on creating a shared vision for marriage, focusing on love, trust, communication, and shared goals.
    • 00:15:05 – Living Fully: Conversation about rewiring past behaviors, embracing intentionality, and creating the relationship you truly want.
    • 00:17:33 – Growth vs. Stagnation: Bri explains the recent separation, her need for Robert to grow personally, and the tension between stagnation and potential growth.
    • 00:27:09 – Entertainment & Emotional Regulation: Brandon outlines the impact of screen time on personal growth and provides guidance for reclaiming margin, regulating emotions, and practicing daily embodiment.
    • 00:30:35 – Embodiment & Presence: Returning to your body and true relational growth.
    • 00:35:54 – Reclaiming Aliveness: Caitlyn explains how excessive screen time diminishes vibrancy and connection, and how removing distractions helps you reconnect with yourself, your spouse, and your children.
    • 00:42:59 – 30-Day Challenge: Practical guidance on taking a full month off TV, social media, podcasts, and video games to create space for transformation and deep family connection.
    • 00:46:21 – Life & Presence: Strategies for regaining energy and aliveness through intentional daily habits, reducing distractions, and engaging fully with family and nature.
    • 00:48:38 – Aligning Actions & Rebuilding Trust: Exploring short-term hopes, shared growth, and concrete steps to rebuild intimacy, trust, and excitement in marriage.
    • 00:53:59 – Daily Practices: Guidance on managing haunting emotions, moving through shame, and implementing daily routines and check-ins to strengthen connection and presence.
    • 01:08:11 – Growth & Joy: Reclaiming excitement, playfulness, and aligning your marriage with shared values, with closing reflections and encouragement for continued growth.
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    1 Std. und 9 Min.
  • Confronting My Husband’s P*rn Use…

    Confronting My Husband’s P*rn Use…
    Jan 23 2026

    In this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast, Brandon and Caitlyn meet with Nathan and Danielle, a couple married for seven and a half years who are just one month into discovering Nathan's pornography addiction and pattern of inappropriate communication with other women. What makes this episode particularly poignant is how the truth came to light—Danielle had a dream about Nathan watching porn, texted him about it, and he finally came clean after hiding it their entire relationship. The hosts explore Nathan's journey of numbing out since childhood through weed, alcohol, and porn, connecting his fear of weakness to his father's recent passing and childhood bullying. Caitlyn powerfully explains how Nathan has become a "talented storyteller" to himself, filtering reality through self-protective narratives. The episode offers profound insights into embodiment work as the key to unlocking hidden memories, the importance of complete honesty rather than general confessions, and how unplugging from all power sources of addiction creates true freedom—not just resisting temptation daily.

    Looking for immediate support in your marriage?
    Grounded Union Couples App: Tap here to claim your spot

    Workshops for Couples: Join the waitlist to get notified

    Follow us on social at @brandontalksmarriage & @caitlyn_doerksen
    Check out our IG account to stay updated @groundedunion
    YouTube Show available here


    Timestamps & Key Moments:

    • 00:00:13 – Podcast Intro: Brandon introduces Season 3 and welcomes Nathan and Danielle to discuss what they're currently facing in their relationship.
    • 00:01:45 – The Dream That Changed Everything: A vivid dream becomes the catalyst for long-hidden porn use coming to light.
    • 00:04:30 – Grief, Loss, and Addiction Collide: The couple discusses Nathan's father's sudden decline and death from cancer, including Nathan's role in assisted suicide, and how grief intensified his addiction.
    • 00:06:45 – Escaping Through Dopamine: Pornography becomes a way to numb emotional pain, especially during separation and moments of deep loneliness.
    • 00:14:25 – Embodiment as the Breakthrough Tool: Brandon shares his own experience of emotional shutdown and introduces embodiment work using the body to reset the nervous system as essential for Nathan to access buried feelings and memories.
    • 00:19:26 – Unhinging from Family of Origin: Brandon introduces the concept of separating from family patterns as Nathan reveals significant childhood memory loss, possibly from years of substance-induced dissociation starting at age 14.
    • 00:25:01 – The Core Fear of Weakness: A core fear of weakness emerges, linking childhood bullying, trauma, and addiction to a desperate pursuit of power and control.
    • 00:29:39 – The Currency of Feeling: Relationships are framed as emotional exchanges, with addiction described as a “leak” that drains intimacy and connection.
    • 00:37:17 – The Invitation to Feel Alive: Caitlyn passionately invites the couple to discover what true, authentic life feels like, acknowledging she might sound "batshit crazy" but knowing the beauty of actually feeling alive for the first time.
    • 00:43:45 – Permission to Feel All the Pain: Brandon discusses witnessing Caitlyn's suffocation-like panic attacks and reframes pain not as something wrong but as the body's necessary process of cycling through trauma to heal.
    • 00:48:09 – Unplugging All Power from Addiction: Caitlyn delivers a powerful metaphor about how sharing every truth unplugs power from addiction—leaving secrets plugged in keeps the addiction energized, while full disclosure cuts all power completely.
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    54 Min.
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