In this episode, I talk about why you already know exactly what's holding you back - and why you keep avoiding it anyway. It's time to stop negotiating with the version of yourself that's been keeping you stuck.

The final piece in the geography series. Returning home after intense travel with new awareness about the difference between facilitating other people's experiences and actually living your own. About making peace with change and choosing your own rhythm.

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From the Mara River after witnessing incredible wildlife crossings, I explore how to find lightness and wonder even while carrying the weight of difficult choices. Sometimes joy and complexity can occupy the same coordinates.

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After 23 years as a safari and expedition guide, I share the raw truth about fear of change and why the anticipation of difficult decisions is almost always worse than the decisions themselves.

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We take complex situations and make them binary, which means we miss all the nuance. In this episode I talk about the the space where most of life actually happens.

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After twenty-three years of guiding, I share the raw truth about what it costs to live other people's adventures while missing your own life. This deeply personal reflection explores what I call the "geography of missing" - all the spaces where I should have been but wasn't - and examines the weight of constantly being outside my own existence.

From missed family moments to my decision to finally step back from scheduled guiding, I explore the emotional reality of a life spent creating magic for others while my own relationships learned to exist without me. It's honest, uncomfortable, and necessary - especially for anyone who travels for work or has ever felt like a visitor in their own life.

A raw look at the cost of following your passion when that passion takes you away from everyone you love.

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You can't control your anxious thoughts any more than you can control your heartbeat, but you can control how you respond to them. Instead of being a dictator demanding your anxiety disappear, become a collaborator who works with it as information rather than an enemy. The shift from fighting your thoughts to managing your response is what moves you from suffering to actual peace with yourself.

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When you keep your problems locked in your head, they grow and distort because they never face reality - your mind isn't meant to store unprocessed pain, and problems that live only in your thoughts can't be solved. This is why talking works, whether through therapy, journaling, or friends - not because others have magic answers, but because translating internal chaos into words forces clarity and makes overwhelming feelings take concrete shape. Most people suffer in silence thinking nobody cares, but this belief is often just fear disguised as strength.

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