In this episode of The Child Psych Podcast, we’re joined by Rebecca Geshuri, licensed marriage and family therapist, certified in Internal Family Systems, Perinatal Mental Health, and Brainspotting, and co-author of When Good Moms Feel Bad.

Rebecca is the Founder of Second Street Collective, where she provides psychotherapy and support to moms and families throughout California. In addition to her clinical work, she teaches workshops to therapists, physicians, doulas, and yoga practitioners, has presented at the IFS Institute and Postpartum Support International conferences, and has been featured on several prominent podcasts. Her work is deeply grounded in both clinical expertise and the lived experience of being a mother to three daughters. You can find her on social media @rebeccageshurilmft.

In this powerful and deeply validating conversation, Rebecca helps us understand why the mothers who care the most often struggle the most—and why maternal distress is not a sign of failure, but a signal that something tender needs attention.

Together, we explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) offers a compassionate framework for depathologizing maternal rage, anxiety, and guilt, and how understanding our internal “parts” can transform the way we parent in real time. Rebecca explains the difference between Good Mom parts and Bad Mom parts—and why both are actually trying to protect us—and unpacks the role shame plays in keeping mothers silent and isolated.

We also talk about unblending: how creating space from overwhelming emotions allows mothers to respond more calmly to their children, even in the hardest moments. Rebecca speaks directly to parents who fear their anger is damaging their children, offering a powerful reframe about nervous systems, repair, and connection. She also shares how healing a mother’s inner world directly supports a child’s regulation, attachment, and sense of safety.

Finally, Rebecca introduces the concept of the Inner Mom—the calm, compassionate internal leader every parent already has—and offers gentle guidance on how to access that part when overwhelm takes over.

This episode is a must-listen for any parent who has ever wondered:

Why is this so hard if I love my child so much?

And for any mother who fears she’s already failed, Rebecca offers a message of deep reassurance, hope, and permission to begin again.

Find her on social @rebeccageshurilmft

Here is the link to her new book, "When Good Mom's Feel Bad" : https://rebeccageshurilmft.com/book

👀 Something Big Is Coming for Parents…

We’re launching The Parent Coach — and trust us, you’re going to want this in your back pocket. More details soon!

The 2026 ICP Parenting Summit is next month!

Join us March 16–19 for 35+ expert masterclasses and four interactive half-day workshops, featuring leading voices like Ross Greene, Laura Markham, Robert Melillo, Lawrence Cohen, Kim John Payne, and Jon Fogel. We’ll be diving into the topics parents need most: screens, discipline, anxiety, emotional regulation, neurodiversity, resilience, play, and more.

The summit is completely free, and VIP packages include lifetime access, toolkits, certificates, and a digital copy of The Parenting Handbook.

Click here to save your seat!

• how to repair and reconnect after the storm has passed

• ways to build emotional skills so these explosions happen less often

Tammy and Tania share compassionate, practical strategies that help parents lead with steadiness instead of shame or punishment. You’ll walk away understanding how to hold boundaries while still protecting your connection — even in the hardest moments.

If you’ve ever felt crushed, angry, or unsure what to do after hearing those words, this episode will help you see them differently and respond in a way that strengthens your relationship rather than strains it.

A must-listen for parents raising emotionally healthy, resilient kids.

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In this episode, we sit down with Elle Wilks, confidence advocate and co-founder of Fearless Girls Club, to explore a pattern many parents notice but don’t always understand: why girls’ confidence so often drops around age 10.

This is the age when many girls shift from carefree self-expression to self-consciousness. Peer approval, appearance, performance, and social comparison begin to carry more weight. What once felt easy — speaking up, trying new things, being silly, taking risks — can suddenly feel loaded with fear of getting it wrong.

Elle shares what is happening developmentally, socially, and emotionally during this stage, and how subtle messages about being “good,” “nice,” and “liked” can slowly disconnect girls from their authentic voice. We talk about the growing influence of friendships, perfectionism, school pressure, and the early impact of social media culture — even before many girls are officially online.

Drawing from her work with girls and families through Fearless Girls Club, an award-winning UK social enterprise supporting girls aged 8–12, Elle explains how confidence isn’t built through lectures — it grows through experiences of courage, creativity, and connection. Their monthly themed activity boxes are designed to spark those moments, giving girls practical tools, stories, and creative challenges that nurture bravery, kindness, and self-worth in a hands-on, meaningful way.

Most importantly, this conversation is packed with practical ways parents can respond when confidence begins to wobble. You’ll learn how to:

• notice early signs of shrinking confidence

• support bravery without adding pressure

• shift conversations away from appearance and toward identity

• help girls build resilience after social setbacks

• create a home environment that protects self-worth

If you’ve seen your once bold, expressive child become more hesitant, emotional, or self-critical, this episode will help you understand why — and show you how to gently guide her back toward self-trust.

An empowering listen for parents, educators, and anyone who wants to help girls grow up grounded, confident, and secure in who they are.

👀 Something Big Is Coming for Parents…

We’re launching The Parent Coach — and trust us, you’re going to want this in your back pocket. More details soon!

The 2026 ICP Parenting Summit is next month!

Join us March 16–19 for 35+ expert masterclasses and four interactive half-day workshops, featuring leading voices like Ross Greene, Laura Markham, Robert Melillo, Lawrence Cohen, Kim John Payne, and Jon Fogel. We’ll be diving into the topics parents need most: screens, discipline, anxiety, emotional regulation, neurodiversity, resilience, play, and more.

The summit is completely free, and VIP packages include lifetime access, toolkits, certificates, and a digital copy of The Parenting Handbook.

Click here to save your seat!

• how to repair and reconnect after the storm has passed

• ways to build emotional skills so these explosions happen less often

Tammy and Tania share compassionate, practical strategies that help parents lead with steadiness instead of shame or punishment. You’ll walk away understanding how to hold boundaries while still protecting your connection — even in the hardest moments.

If you’ve ever felt crushed, angry, or unsure what to do after hearing those words, this episode will help you see them differently and respond in a way that strengthens your relationship rather than strains it.

A must-listen for parents raising emotionally healthy, resilient kids.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tammy Schamuhn and Tania Johnson tackle one of the most painful moments in parenting: when your child looks at you and says, “I hate you.”

Those words can sting, shock, and even shake your confidence as a parent. But Tammy and Tania explain why this moment is far less about hatred — and far more about big feelings, overwhelmed nervous systems, and developing brains that don’t yet have the skills to say what they truly mean.

You’ll learn what’s actually happening beneath those words, why kids often say this to the people they feel safest with, and how your response in that moment can either escalate the situation or help your child return to regulation.

In this conversation, we cover:

• why “I hate you” is often a sign of emotional overload, not disrespect

• how brain development limits kids’ ability to express complex feelings

• what not to say in the moment

• how to stay calm when you feel hurt or triggered

👀 Something Big Is Coming for Parents…

We’re launching The Parent Coach — and trust us, you’re going to want this in your back pocket. More details soon!

The 2026 ICP Parenting Summit is coming!

Join us March 16–19 for 35+ expert masterclasses and four interactive half-day workshops, featuring leading voices like Ross Greene, Laura Markham, Robert Melillo, Lawrence Cohen, Kim John Payne, and Jon Fogel. We’ll be diving into the topics parents need most: screens, discipline, anxiety, emotional regulation, neurodiversity, resilience, play, and more.

The summit is completely free, and VIP packages include lifetime access, toolkits, certificates, and a digital copy of The Parenting Handbook.

Click here to save your seat!

• how to repair and reconnect after the storm has passed

• ways to build emotional skills so these explosions happen less often

Tammy and Tania share compassionate, practical strategies that help parents lead with steadiness instead of shame or punishment. You’ll walk away understanding how to hold boundaries while still protecting your connection — even in the hardest moments.

If you’ve ever felt crushed, angry, or unsure what to do after hearing those words, this episode will help you see them differently and respond in a way that strengthens your relationship rather than strains it.

A must-listen for parents raising emotionally healthy, resilient kids.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.