What if the fastest way out of resentment, anxiety, and emotional spirals was the one thing most of us avoid? In this episode, Finn and Dr. Sarah break down why speaking directly to the person who upset you is one of the most powerful tools in codependency recovery. With real-life stories, humor, and practical guidance, they show how confronting discomfort leads to clarity, intimacy, and emotional freedom—and why avoiding the conversation costs you far more in the long run.

Takeaways

• Making up stories in your head creates resentment, not safety

• Avoidance is a core codependency pattern that keeps you stuck

• Speaking directly builds intimacy—even when it feels risky

• Preparation matters: regulate before you communicate

• Short-term discomfort creates long-term emotional freedom

Key Timestamps

[00:01] Why we avoid the person who upset us

[00:03] The danger of making up stories in your head

[00:05] Deciding if a relationship is worth addressing

[00:07] How to prepare emotionally before the conversation

[00:10] Speaking without blame or defensiveness

[00:12] Choosing courage over gossip and resentment

Notable Resources

• Dr. Sarah Michaud – Author of Co Crazy

• Follow @leavingcrazytown on YouTube

• Website: https://drsarahmichaud.com/

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Leaving CrazyTown is a raw, real-talk podcast hosted by Finn and Dr. Sarah Michaud, two recovering addicts turned relatable guides on the wild ride of codependency healing. Each episode dives deep into the chaos of dysfunctional relationships, identity loss, and emotional recovery—with humor, honesty, and hope. Subscribe and buckle up—we’re leaving CrazyTown.