Compassion means we walk side by side as we find our way home. It's often better and more compassionate to know when to build a bridge rather than a wall. We are all walking somewhere.

In this episode, Tesse Akpeki and Paula Okonneh talk about embracing all parts of ourselves - warts and all, including the beautiful attractive parts. We don't deny and get defended about our shadow parts. All of us have a shadow. Integration makes us real, empathetic, loving and trusting.

Each individual has a purpose in life. I ask what legacy I want to leave behind? How can I empower others? Joel White asks. An answer to this is debunking the myths surrounding men's mental health. Men are fix, fix, fix. Women tend to be better at listening, being intuitive, connecting, transforming situations says Joel.

Women in crisis usually find themselves in an ambulance. Men tend to find themselves at the back of a police car with handcuffs on. In reality we need to sort ourselves out first before we sort it out for others.

"We are not in control of anything. We have the ability to be discerning, take control of our own behaviours, embrace responsibility and accountability for our choices, actions and reactions. It is a daily practice and it is down to each of us as to how we navigate these", Joel advises.

"Men experience a lot of things women do. We just hide it better because of the influence of conditioning when we're younger. That's a gift and a curse.

To shape a better world, the quest is about men and women respecting each of our differences and working together. When you've got two people who respect each other, you bring the best out of each other- men and women together.

Rewired for Men helps men rewire limited beliefs and unlock their true potential. With deep expertise and a touch of humour, Joel White creates spaces where men can reclaim control. They can rediscover purpose and best of all they can thrive.

"If anything, it's a very clear passion of mine to make a difference to people's lives - empowering men to do that so they can then do the same for others. That's very much at the forefront of rewire for men and why I do what I do" says Joel White.