Feeling lost in your career? Questioning your life direction? So many of us spend our 20s and 30s chasing the job titles we’re told we “should” have, lofty income goals, or status, only to end up feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, and like we’ve sold our soul along the way.

What if the answer to career clarity and job satisfaction isn’t ahead of you… it’s behind you?

Research shows that people whose adult careers align with their early interests experience higher job satisfaction, better income, and greater educational attainment. If you loved writing, building, organizing, performing, asking questions, leading groups, solving problems, or creating things as a kid, those patterns can still guide what feels meaningful and easeful in adulthood.

So in today’s episode, we explore how your childhood interests and your true nature as a kid can offer clues for what will bring you long-term career fulfillment — and why reconnecting with who you were as a child is an evidence-based career strategy.

Tune in to hear about:

• Why so many adults feel lost or misaligned in their careers
• The disconnect between societal expectations and your authentic self
• How your childhood “essence” reveals your natural strengths
• Prompts to uncover your core nature
• The new research linking childhood interests to adult job satisfaction
• How interests are often more stable than personality traits
• Holland’s RIASEC career theory in the 6 interest categories
• How to use your younger self as a practical career compass

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Do you ever struggle with shame, pain, numbness, or disconnection in your sex life?

So many of us have done inner child work, attachment work, and therapy for our mental health — but we’ve never applied that same lens to our sexuality. Cultural conditioning, religious messaging, porn, performance pressure, trauma, and body shame all shape how safe (or unsafe) we feel in intimacy. And often, it’s our sexual selves that become fragmented.

In this episode, I’m joined by trauma-informed somatic sex educator and Erotic Wholeness coach Darshana Avila (featured on Goop’s podcast and TV show) to explore how to heal sexual shame, navigating painful sex, ways to deepen intimacy, and confidently asking for the pleasure you actually want. Darshana has dedicated her career to helping people tune in to their truth, desires, and authentic relationships. Her work has been featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & goop, and she’s spent over a decade guiding people out of the cultural patterns that keep them stuck.

This conversation explores sex and the erotic not as performance, but as attunement, embodiment, and healing.

Tune in to hear:

• What Erotic Wholeness actually means
• How trauma and upbringing impact desire and shutdown
• Why so many women experience painful sex — and what might be happening physiologically and emotionally
• Why orgasms can feel difficult or inconsistent
• How to feel more confident and comfortable in your body
• How to give feedback in bed without shame or conflict
• What to do when you “don’t even know what you like”
• How to slow down, build anticipation, and deepen attunement
• Why presence and nervous system regulation are key to better sex

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed.

Do you and your boo constantly feel "too tired" for sex? The answer might not be your energy levels (or even your libido). We're throwing it back to realtalk with TikTok’s #1 sex educator, Dr. Tara, on how to initiate intimacy when you're busy/tired, what to do with a low libido, and how stress, hormones, and mental health impact desire.

Dr. Tara is a certified sexologist, award-winning researcher, tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV host, radio host, a coach and the Internet’s Resident Sex Expert. She’s the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration, and she just released her new book, How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed).

Listen to the full episode here!

Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.

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