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The survival identity hiding under ambition

Hustle feels safe… until it owns you.

Not because you’re weak.
Not because you’re doing it wrong.
But because hustle is a survival spell your nervous system learned a long time ago.

In this episode of the Spiritually Kinky Podcast, we get deliciously honest about the part of ambition no one wants to name — the moment where drive turns into self-domination and burnout starts masquerading as dedication.

We’re talking about the Edge-Holder shadow kink — the woman who learned to stay sharp, stay busy, stay “on,” because slowing down once felt dangerous.

This isn’t a “just rest more” conversation.
It’s a body-level truth about why flow can’t be forced, ease can feel terrifying, and hustle keeps looping even when you’re exhausted.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• Why hustle feels like safety (and why your body clings to it)
• How spiritual and personal development teachings accidentally keep you stuck
• What the Edge-Holder shadow kink actually is
• Why burnout isn’t failure — it’s a refusal
• How flow arrives when you stop dominating your power into submission

If you’re tired of proving your worth through exhaustion…
If you secretly crave ease but don’t trust it…
If you know you’re powerful but don’t want to keep bleeding for it…

This episode is for you.

✨ Ready to stop forcing and start creating with your power?

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If manifestation hasn’t worked the way you were promised…
If vision boards, affirmations, and journaling feel powerful in theory but never quite land in your body…
This episode is for you.

In this deeply embodied conversation, Dustin unpacks the real reason manifestation doesn’t “stick” — and it has nothing to do with your mindset, worthiness, or effort.

✨ You’re not broken.
✨ You’re not doing it wrong.
✨ Your nervous system just hasn’t been taught that what you want is safe yet.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• Why manifestation tools fail when the body doesn’t feel safe
• How desire is not something to transcend, but a doorway to creation
• The hidden harm of worthiness-based spirituality and spiritual bypassing
• Why strategy without the right structure keeps women stuck
• How power, permission, and consent change everything
• Why safety — not positivity — is what actually allows creation

This episode speaks directly to the woman who:

• Has done the healing work
• Understands her patterns
• Is tired of trying to fix herself
• And secretly wonders why she “knows better” but still feels stuck

This is not another mindset talk.
This is nervous-system-based creation.

👉 If this episode helped your body soften even a little, you’re invited into the Skool community, where we ditch spiritual bypassing, exit shame loops, and reclaim power, permission, and pleasure to create a life you love.

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Your Nervous System Has a Shadow Kink (And It Was Born Out of Love)

If you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships, money, work, or self-worth—this episode will change how you see yourself forever.

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the concept of Shadow Kinks—the unconscious instructions your nervous system formed out of love to keep you safe, connected, and alive… even when those instructions are now outdated and costing you what you actually want.

You’ll learn:

• What a shadow kink really is (and why it’s not something to shame or “heal away”
• How shadow kinks form from unmet needs + survival love
• Why so much of the spiritual and healing world is actually stuck in spiritual bypassing
• How shaming or blaming your patterns keeps them locked in place
• Why integration—not “rising above”—is the real path to change

We explore two of the most common shadow kinks in depth:

• The Fixer (including the “Good Girl” instruction)
• The Hustler (where hustle = safety and rest feels dangerous)

You’ll also discover:

• How shadow kinks show up in love, money, leadership, and the bosses you end up working for
• The hidden superpowers each shadow kink contains
• How awareness allows you to begin updating unconscious instructions—without force, fixing, or shame

This episode is not about becoming someone new.
It’s about remembering who you were before survival ran the show.

✨ No spiritual cosplay.
✨ No emotional bypassing.
✨ Just awareness, integration, and embodied truth.

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