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What if the pursuit of happiness is leading you away from the life you actually want? We dig into a kinder, sturdier target—equilibrium—and show how to build it through three practical pillars inspired by Arthur C. Brooks’s take on Thomas Aquinas and grounded in lived experience. Instead of chasing constant highs, we lay out a simple framework for steady days: know yourself, focus your passions, and train willpower like a muscle.

We start by mapping real routines and frictions. If the gym detour never happens, move the workout into your flow. If washed fruit keeps you on track, prep it once and make the better choice the easy choice. We talk about solitude as fuel, the subtle signals of being off balance, and how mindfulness, prayer, or therapy can turn vague discomfort into clear, actionable insight. Then we pivot to passion without burnout: pruning inputs, picking one priority, and choosing a small repeating action that compounds into identity.

Finally, we reframe willpower from a moral test to a trainable skill. Pre-decide your defaults, use environmental cues, and practice progressive resistance—choices that get easier only when your capacity grows. Expect joy to come in flashes and let contentment carry the rest. By the end, you’ll have a compact, human plan for the new year that rejects grand overhauls in favor of honest, sustainable habits that fit your real life.

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