A real conversation with a client who believed she was “pretending” and what was actually happening beneath the surface.

This episode is for the person who feels like they’re “trying to be someone they’re not,” or like stepping into the next version of themselves feels strangely heavy, emotional, or confusing.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a real conversation from a client session, the kind that stops you in your tracks because you can feel truth move through the room.

She said:

“I feel like I’m pretending. I don’t know if I’m built for this.”

What she was experiencing is something I call The Identity Threshold:

The moment where your old self has loosened its grip… but your new self isn’t fully formed yet.

It doesn’t feel exciting. It feels disorienting.

Not because you’re failing. But because your nervous system is adjusting to new emotional territory.

Your body is still calibrated to:

• Stay small

• Stay agreeable

• Stay unseen

• Stay safe

But your deeper self is ready to:

• Lead

• Be witnessed

• Take up space

• Be expressed

This episode will help you:

• Understand why self-doubt increases right before expansion

• Recognize the emotional texture of identity growth

• Stop mistaking unfamiliarity for “I’m not ready”

• Learn what actually helps you stabilize the version of you you’re becoming

And if this feels uncannily close to where you are, if you feel like you’re in the “in-between” with no clear identity to hold on to, then this is where The Unlearning becomes powerful.

Not another course. Not more mindset talk. Actual, nervous-system-level identity rewiring.

Self-doubt is not a sign you’re wrong. It’s a sign you’re close.