💔 How can you find someone to date when dating apps aren't working for you, and all you do is work, stay at home, and meet with the same D&D group or spend full days with one single person at a time playing Warhammer? 🧌

In this episode, Kirk shared his challenges to date as a single nerd 😰 Like many people, he was promised that "if you focus on yourself and sort your life out, someone will naturally come." Unfortunately, that was not the case. He found a steady job and a home, but nobody to share his life with 🏡

📱 Since dating apps weren't working, he decided to shelf the thought of a partner and focus on hobbies like Warhammer and TTRPG. Ironically, that's what led to his first date ever. Even though Kirk started feeling like he was way too busy and almost without options, he managed to find a date. And in the same way that he found one, he can find another. And so can you 🫵Sometimes, we create our characters in ways that don't help us reach our complete specific quests 🤬 We thought a certain build would do the trick for every single area, but that's often not the case.

🏢 The life you thought would lead to happiness may feel more like a trap than anything else. In those cases, taking a step back and thinking of ways to find your Player 2 may be the best strategy. Like Kirk, with some brainstorming and looking at your past successes, you may find a way to defeat the BBEG and get the loot! 🪙

🎧 Are you ready? PRESS START! 👾

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related Episodes:

1. Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
2. IRL Lessons from Video Games, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
3. Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: the Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian
4. Shy meets Socially Anxious, and Going Slow: the Nerd Love Story of Steven and Christin

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

#datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast

Contact:
dm@datelikeanerd.com or
@datelikeanerd on social media

👯 What does dating within a nerd community look like? Finding a group you're comfortable with can help you "just be yourself" and find your Player 2. 🙌 It also means you'll be enjoying yourself until that happens, which makes you more attractive!

🧙‍♂️ In this episode, Jose and I discuss what it was like to date within the Argentine Tolkien Association, where we met. Just like a Skill Tree, each friend you make can introduce you to others who are similar. From within those people, you may end up finding your Player 2... as long as you focus on expanding your network with like-minded friends.

👀 And that's exactly what we saw. Almost everyone there found someone to date (or have "something" with). Almost. Because some people were trying too hard, and that was what kept everyone away. Both as friends and as benefits 😔

🎧 If you want someone to give The One Ring to, listen to this episode! 💍

💬 And if you're wondering where you can meet your Player 2 organically, here are 200+ ideas and a guide to help you on your Quest! Download them here for FREE: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/where

📱Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related Episodes:

1. The Tolkien Association: Where to Meet Nerds, with Vir
2. Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose
3. Tolkien meets Star Wars: The Nerd Love Story of Kaia and Celania
4. Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: The Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:54:09 What to Do and NOT to Do
• 00:06:06 "Just Be Yourself"
• 00:08:44 Choosing Who You Want to Be and Date
• 00:11:53 Go Slow With Your Nerdom
• 00:15:40 Conversation Tips for Info-Dumping Nerds
• 00:19:07 Find Your Community First

#datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast #tolkien #lotr

Contact:
dm@datelikeanerd.com or
@datelikeanerd on social media

🦾 What you consider success and achievements in real life could be similar to how you play video games. Dr. Daniel Kaufmann is back to share how learning what we value in video games reflects what we may also value IRL 🌎

Understanding your player type can help you make choices that align with your personality 🤓 Knowing how you play video games can say a lot about the types of challenges you thrive on and how you prefer to overcome them. This new information can help you make choices that align with what you enjoy, helping you get over obstacles and get yourself in situations where you can thrive! 🏆

But just like with any other model of personality type, these are characteristics that can change over time 📈 You likely don't play only one specific type of video game, so you're also likely to enjoy different things in real life. However, using these as guidelines can be the start to enjoying your life to the full 🤩

🖤 Dating, like most things in life, has its own set of challenges. The cheat code is to choose the ones we're more likely to enjoy or, at least, find tolerable enough to overcome ⛰️

Are you ready to learn more about yourself? Listen now and start choosing the best challenges for your player type!

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

Guest Bio

Dr. Daniel Kaufmann is a YouTube Partner as Dr. Gameology, where he teaches about the many positive elements of video games that help us overcome professional and personal journeys in real life.

He is an Associate Professor who’s helped develop programs for gaming and geek therapy training in clinical settings, and his publications cover video games, personality theory, online education, and counselor development.

Dr. Kaufmann recently published the book The Gamer’s Journey, to help you turn the themes found in many video games into life lessons that can unlock your own potential.

Socials: @DrGameology

• https://www.youtube.com/@DrGameology
• https://www.instagram.com/drgameology/
• https://www.facebook.com/DrGameology
• https://www.twitch.tv/drgameology

Other Links

• https://drgameology.com/
• https://discord.com/invite/3bY5u5EBcn

Podcast

• https://drgameology.com/podcast/

Book: The Gamer's Journey https://www.amazon.com/Gamers-Journey-Daniel-Kaufmann-PhD-ebook/dp/B0D7NY5Z1R

Related Episodes:

• Beat the Fear of Rejection Through Your Gamer’s Journey
• Gamify Your Dating Anxiety
• Find Love Through Online Games

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:23 Gamer Personality Types
• 00:07:00 Learn From Your Player Type
• 00:12:28 Understanding Personality Types
• 00:17:58 What Playing Baldur's Gate 3's Dark Urge Says About You
• 00:20:48 Takeaways From "The Gamer's Journey"
• 00:22:21 Contact Info

Contact:
dm@datelikeanerd.com or
@datelikeanerd on social media