Just because your calendar is "open" doesn't mean you're available. This week on Restructured, we’re diving into the heavy cost of a "misaligned yes." I’m walking through two real-life opportunities I chose to pass on—invitations that sounded exciting on paper but didn't fit the current season of my life.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The Psychology of the "No": Why it feels so uncomfortable to set boundaries.

• Overcommitment & Guilt: Breaking the cycle of people-pleasing.

• ROI vs. Alignment: How to evaluate if a project is worth your energy, not just your time.

• The Resentment Trap: Identifying the bitterness that follows a forced commitment.

• The Filter Question: The one thing I ask myself before saying yes to anything.

The Question of the Week: "Am I going to regret saying yes to this in three weeks?"

If you struggle to say no when you technically have the "time," this episode is your permission slip to protect your space.

Being “successful” shouldn’t mean being reachable 24/7.

In Season 2, Episode 1 of ReStructured, Melissa Terito is joined by Lainey Eddlemon (OG Louisiana Ladies collaborator and now an HR onboarding pro) for a real talk on boundaries—at work, at home, and especially with our phones.

They unpack how younger professionals are redefining ambition, why “work = identity” is a trap, and how constant notifications (and endless scrolling) quietly steal your time, sleep, and mental bandwidth. You’ll hear practical ideas like removing email from your phone, creating true separation between work and life, and even a tool called Brick that physically locks you out of the apps you can’t stop checking.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for not responding fast enough—or caught yourself scrolling for hours and feeling worse afterward—this episode is your permission slip to reset the rules.

In this episode:
📵 Why boundaries don’t make you lazy—they make you sustainable
🏡 The “third place” problem and why the internet can’t replace real life
🎰 Social media as a dopamine slot machine (and how to detox)
📧 Removing after-hours access to work email (and why it helps)
🗓️ Melissa’s 30-day sabbatical plan—and what it models for leadership

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What if the reason you feel overwhelmed going into a new year is not your workload, but the boundaries you never set?

In this solo episode of Restructured, Melissa Terito breaks down the three types of boundaries that quietly shape your life and career, and explains why most people only focus on one of them. As 2026 begins, she challenges you to stop repeating the same patterns under the illusion of a “fresh start.”

This episode is both reflective and practical, offering are set for anyone who wants more control over their calendar, their energy, and their commitments this year.

Because success does not come from being available 24/7.
It comes from being intentional.

🎧 Press play if you are ready to stop letting your calendar run your life and start doing ambition on your own terms.

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Being great at what you do shouldn’t require being available24/7. In this episode of Restructured, Melissa Terito is joined by financial advisor (and longtime friend) Andy Bush for a real conversation about boundaries—especially for high-achievers, business owners, and people pleasers.

They unpack why “freedom” actually needs structure, howconstant availability gets confused with exceptional service, and what to do when guilt shows up the moment you try to rest. Andy shares the simple practice that’s helped him most: setting intentional reminders that re-center his mindset when overthinking kicks in. Plus, they talk autonomy, routines, device boundaries, and the tough truth that you can’t control what other people think.

If you’ve ever tied your worth to responsiveness, felttriggered by “not having time to think,” or struggled to mentally unplug, this one’s for you. Because boundaries aren’t the end of ambition—they’re how youbuild success on your own terms.

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In this episode of Restructured, Melissa Terito sits down with her LinkedIn friend, Jaime Thompson, an accountant, longtime business owner, and fellow boundary builder. What starts as a social media connection turns into a real talk on the “boundaries journey” so many professionals face, especially in client serving industries.

Jaime shares how public accounting trained her in chaos, why endless deadlines and glorified burnout should not be a badge of honor, and the wake up call that forced her to rethink everything. Together, she and Melissa unpack how to set boundaries without losing trust, how to train clients through clear expectations, and why structure is not a wall. It is freedom. From CRMs as a first line of defense to scheduling after hours emails for the next workday, Jaime offers practical ways to protect your time and elevate your service.

They also explore the deeper stuff: stepping away from your business to see how it runs without you, rebuilding identity when your worth has been tied to output, and embracing community over competition in a profession that is changing fast. Plus, Jaime drops a line you will want on a mug: “You can’t lead when you can’t breathe.”

If you have been feeling stretched thin, stuck in the grind, or unsure how to say “no” while staying professional, this one is for you.

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On today’s episode of ReStructured, Melissa Terito sits down with longtime friend and fellow TPA owner, Shannon Edwards of TriStar, to talk about what it really looks like to build a boundary-first business.

Shannon shares how she went from 300+ hours of overtime in a CPA firm and hauling bankers’ boxes on girls’ trips to closing her office at noon on Fridays, guarding her weekends, and actually unplugging on vacation (yes, with a real out-of-office that she honors).

They get into the mindset shift from “I have to be available24/7” to “my team and my network can handle this,” why hobbies like golf and pickleball are non-negotiable for high performers, and how leaders unintentionally hold their people back by doing everything themselves. If you’re a firm owner, partner, or ambitious professional who struggles to step away from your inbox, this conversation will give you permission and practical ideas to protect your time without sacrificing growth.

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What happens when setting a boundary means completely starting over?

In this powerful and deeply personal episode of Restructured, I sit down with my friend and fellow boundary advocate Jennifer Wiczynski, an ERISA attorney who made a life-changing decision to rebuild her life from the ground up.

Content note: This episode includes discussion of an unsafe relationship and may be difficult for some listeners. Please take care while listening and skip ahead a few minutes if needed.

We talk about the moments that push us to draw the line, the difference between setting rules and setting real boundaries, and how both of us have learned to protect our peace while running businesses in a demanding industry.

It’s a conversation about courage, change, and choosing yourself — even when it’s hard.
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In this heartfelt and relatable episode, Melissa reconnects with her cousin and longtime friend, Paige Muller, for an honest conversation about the evolution of work, motherhood, and personal boundaries. Paige shares her journey from running a thriving aesthetics business to realizing that “success” wasn’t feeling the way it was supposed to.

Together, they unpack the hard lessons of entrepreneurial burnout, the power of saying no, and the courage it takes to step off the hamster wheel when life feels unsustainable. From navigating clients’ expectations to learning that “you get what you tolerate,” Paige and Melissa explore how to protect your time, energy, and peace at work and at home.

They also share practical tips on using technology to set healthy boundaries, reflect on the balance between obligation and expectation, and share a few laughs about family, books, and learning to let go of the pressure to do it all.

If you’ve ever struggled with burnout, people-pleasing, or finding contentment in your season of life, this episode is for you.

🎧 Tune in to ReStructured with Melissa Terito, a podcast about redefining boundaries, business, and balance on your own terms.

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