120: 4/8, Ali Katz Married Herself: Why We Should Stop Waiting to be Chosen; How to Design a Relationship That Works Series

Andrea sits down with Ali Katz — entrepreneur, community builder, mother, and self-marriage pioneer — to explore her journey of box-checking success, internal disconnection, discovery of the warring selves within and the need for identity death before birthing a new soul. If you're waiting for the one, if you're healing from heartbreak, if you're seeking belonging without self-abandonment, or if you're looking to dismantle the traditional relationship script, this is for you. You'll hear:

-How Ali fell in love with who she is

-All about her proposal, ring, vows and Costa Rica wedding

-Why magic rituals (and a Ketubah!) create reality

-Why we need not WAIT to be chosen

-How she built internal safety instead of outsourcing

-All about an ayahuasca journey vision

-Her mid-life shift from the beaches of LA to the fields of Boulder

-How self-devotion prevents future partner resentment

Find Ali's wedding online (!!!) at www.thealikatz.com/marry-yourself

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/

119: Part 3/8: Monogamous, Sleeping Apart & Growing Together: How to Design a Relationship that Works Series

Twenty-four years, one marriage, separate bedrooms, and zero regrets—meet Jonathan and Angela, the monogamous couple proving that "traditional" doesn't have to mean boring AF. From their "let's put all cards on the table" first date where they basically arranged their own marriage, to their eight-month pandemic deep-dive that finally let them fine-tune 19 years of functional-but-not-optimized coupledom, these two are rewriting the relationship rulebook one shower date at a time. The secret sauce? Radical independence with devotion, love languages as tacos (yes, really), and understanding that intimacy isn't just about sex—it's about being each other's biggest cheerleader while also knowing when to meow it out and go to your separate corners. Spoiler: sleeping apart might actually save your relationship, and you don't need grand gestures when Post-it notes and offering a water bottle speak volumes in the right love language. You'll hear:

-How they created their own 'arranged' marriage on the first date

-Separate bedrooms = less resentment = relationship gold

-Why re-learning the 5 Love languages as tacos changed everything

-"What makes the whole work" beats "what makes me happy right now"

-Why little things beat the grand gestures

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/

118: Ep 2/8, Andrea & Kevin's Blueprint for Modern Love: Saturday CheckIns are So Hot Right Now! : How To Design a Relationship That Works Series

Hey Bravehearts, curious how to start a romantic relationship at 50? After divorce, polyamory, therapy, personal growth and years of unlearning cultural BS, Andrea and Kevin share the actual tools, conversations, rituals, and agreements they use to create emotional safety, embodied intimacy, a sense of freedom and a relationship that doesn't require self-abandonment. This is about two grown humans stay AWAKE and choosing each other from a place of wholeness. There's a nod to Susan Cain's "Quiet", Betty Martin's "The Art of Receiving and Giving", Jack Morin's "The Erotic Mind", Attachment Theory, Brené Brown and Esther Perel. You'll hear:

-Why five weeks of Zoom calls set a beautiful stage for a first date

-About Saturday check-ins, eye-gazing and a suggestion box (Yes!)

-About a mealtime prayer is better than a gratitude journal

-How wrestling and rough-housing is part of their intimacy

-Why catching tension early is the secret to a beautiful relationship

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/