This week we’re diving into the world of sex work and stripping—unpacking the stigma, stereotypes, and endless misconceptions that surround an industry everyone seems to have opinions about but few truly understand. Through three interviews with guests from different perspectives, we explore the realities behind the myths, the sense of community that exists within the industry, and the ways society often dehumanizes what it refuses to fully understand.

Morgan Hay: morganhay@morganhay.com

Vicki Shadowline on Instagram vickyshadowline@gmail.com

Ross Dexter on Instagram @rossisrollin

DV8 on Instagram @dv8_club

Elle Stanger on Instagram @stripperwriter

Etiquette Tips:

https://www.salient.org.nz/post/strip-club-etiquette

Romanticizing red flags is basically our brain’s way of turning warning signs into personality traits we think we can “handle.” In this episode, we unpack the behaviors we once excused—emotional unavailability, inconsistency, intensity that felt like passion—and why they can feel so intoxicating in the moment. With humor and a little honesty, we explore the difference between chemistry and chaos, and what it actually takes to stop confusing the two.

Attached Audio Book Below

https://www.audible.com/pd/Attached-Audiobook/0593171667?ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&bp_o=true&language=en_US&source_code=GPAPP30DTRIAL5480813240005&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23058120608&gclid=Cj0KCQjw7cLOBhDmARIsAGsuA0npw0iQX38G5s_eR4ApanuBnN2YLiWEGtOCo_eOvDYU0HKxG9Ma8y0aAjn7EALw_wcB

Music credits to Alright Alright based in Denver, CO.

Desire is full of contradictions—we crave closeness but fear losing ourselves, want passion but also stability, chase novelty while longing for safety. The very things that attract us can eventually unsettle us: independence can feel like distance, and reliability can feel like boredom. In relationships, this creates a quiet tension where we’re constantly balancing opposing needs, often without realizing it. Learning to hold both sides—to want connection and autonomy, excitement and security—is where deeper, more conscious love begins.

Link for the Documentary about Portland, OR strip club culture.

Perel, E. (2006). Mating in captivity: Unlocking erotic intelligence. HarperCollins.

Music by Alright Alright