Questions Your Daughter Wishes You Would Ask: From Preteens to Motherhood

In this comprehensive episode, I walk mothers through the questions daughters desperately wish they would ask at every life stage, and why most mothers miss the mark by asking surface-level surveillance questions instead of connection-building ones. From preteens who need "What makes you feel afraid?" instead of "Did you finish your homework?" to new mothers who need "How can I support your motherhood?" instead of criticism disguised as concern, the right questions communicate trust, respect, and genuine curiosity about who your daughter is becoming. I break down specific questions for preteens (8-12), teenagers (13-18), young adults (late teens through 30s), and daughters becoming mothers, plus the timing and tone that makes these conversations actually work. The episode culminates in repair questions—the hardest but most important ones that require vulnerability and accountability like "Did I hurt you when..." These aren't just conversation starters; they're invitations into your daughter's inner world that tell her "I see you, I want to know you, and your feelings matter to me." Download the free PDF of all questions in the show notes so you can reference them anytime.

With this episode you'll be able to:

1. Ask connection questions instead of surveillance questions that shut down communication with preteens and teens
2. Shift from parenting mode to partnership with teenagers by asking "Are there tough decisions you're making?" rather than interrogating
3. Respect your adult daughter's autonomy by asking "Do you need advice or are you just venting?" before offering unsolicited opinions
4. Support your daughter's motherhood without criticism by centering her needs with "How can I support your motherhood?"
5. Practice repair questions like "Did I hurt you when..." that require vulnerability and create space for healing old wounds
6. Download the free PDF with every question from this episode so you can start deepening connection today

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Keyword tags: Mother-daughter questions, connection questions, parenting teenagers, emotional support, repair questions, young adult daughters, supporting new mothers, vulnerability in parenting, accountability, mother-daughter communication, partnership parenting, respecting autonomy, generational healing, surveillance vs connection, repair conversations

Did We Grow Up in the Same House? How Family Roles Shape Your Mother Wound

In this episode, I break down common roles children play in families and how each one creates a mother wound that follows you into adulthood. Whether you were the parentified daughter who became a mini-adult too soon, the golden child living on a pedestal, the scapegoat blamed for family dysfunction, or the invisible child overlooked for being "easy," none of these roles were your choice; you were a child surviving in an established system. I explain the difference between healthy responsibility and parentification, why scapegoats are often truth-tellers who leave first, how golden children struggle with conditional love based on performance, and why invisible children learned that asking for attention was a burden. These roles don't just stay in childhood, they shape how you show up in relationships, careers, and your own parenting. I address mothers who recognize these dynamics in their families with compassion, explaining that awareness is the first step and it's never too late to repair if your children are willing. The power you have now as an adult is choosing who you are outside of that assigned role.

With this episode you'll be able to:

1. Identify if you played one of these family roles (parentified child, golden child, scapegoat, or invisible child) and how it shaped your mother wound
2. Understand why parentification is different from healthy responsibility
3. Recognize that scapegoats are often truth-tellers who had the courage to call out dysfunction and leave first
4. See how being the "easy" invisible child meant emotional neglect, not that you didn't need attention and support
5. Learn how these childhood survival strategies show up in your adult relationships, career, and parenting patterns
6. Practice stepping out of your assigned role by deciding who you want to be outside of family dynamics

Connect with Brittney:

1. Instagram: @theBrittneyScott
2. Website: www.brittneymscott.com
3. Consultation to work with Brittney
4. Free Resources

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Keyword tags: Family roles, parentified child, golden child, scapegoat, invisible child, sibling dynamics, mother wound, eldest daughter syndrome, emotional neglect, family dysfunction, truth tellers, conditional love, emotional support, family systems, breaking family...

Why Your Mother Wound Gets Triggered When Raising Small Children: Introducing Safety in Sisterhood Group

In this episode, I address mothers who've caught themselves sounding just like their own mothers and felt crushing guilt because they swore they'd never parent that way. I break down why motherhood activates mother wounds like nothing else: you're reliving your childhood in real time through each developmental stage, your stressed brain defaults to automatic patterns from your own upbringing, and the isolation of motherhood amplifies everything. I share my personal story of handling my daughter's tantrums during my husband's deployment, how sitting on the floor and offering a hug when she was ready changed everything for both of us. This episode explores why band-aid parenting solutions don't work when something in the middle is missing, why healing alone deepens shame spirals, and how community healing gives you permission to take care of yourself while breaking cycles in real time. I introduce Safety in Sisterhood, my 2026 group for mothers with young children who want to heal their mother wounds while actively parenting littles, not after they're grown.

With this episode you'll be able to:

1. Understand why each developmental stage your child goes through can trigger unresolved pain from that same age in your own childhood
2. Recognize automatic nervous system responses that revert to your mother's parenting style when you're stressed, tired, or overwhelmed
3. Learn why band-aid parenting solutions fail when you're missing the connection between knowing what to do and actually implementing it
4. See how healing in community breaks shame, provides real examples of cycle-breaking, and validates that your needs matter too
5. Discover the Safety in Sisterhood group for mothers with young children (birth through elementary) healing mother wounds while parenting littles
6. Accept that emotions are energy wanting to leave your body—let them out however they need to come rather than keeping them stuck

Click the link in the show notes to visit brittneymscott.com, learn more about Safety in Sisterhood, and fill out the interest form. This group is for mothers ready to break cycles now, not after their kids are grown.

Connect with Brittney:

1. Instagram: @theBrittneyScott
2. Website: www.brittneymscott.com
3. Consultation to work with Brittney
4. Free Resources

Mentioned resources:

1. Safety in Sisterhood group program (starting 2026)