Who Am I Now That I'm a Mom? Finding Yourself After Motherhood + Teaching Your Daughter Beauty Is Felt, Not Seen

Have you ever stood in front of your closet feeling like nothing fits—not just your body, but your life? Do you look in the mirror and wonder where "you" went? You're not alone.

In this powerful 56-minute conversation, @wearingyourworth founder Sarah Gale (30 years in fashion, Project Runway Australia judge, and personal development expert) reveals why so many moms experience identity loss—and how your wardrobe is actually a metaphor for your life.

What you'll discover:

✨ Why moms lose themselves at specific pivot points (ages 9-11, teen years, empty nest—and sometimes as early as ages 2-5)
✨ The comfort addiction trap: Why always reaching for oversized clothes might mean you're stuck in a comfort zone in your business, relationships, and parenting
✨ How your clothing patterns mirror your life patterns: Hiding, playing small, seeking external validation
✨ The 3 Style Essences you were born with (and why your third essence is the one you're most resistant to—but need most)
✨ The ONE question that will change how your daughter sees herself forever: "How do you feel in that outfit?" (not "how do you look?")
✨ Why postpartum body recovery takes 18+ months (not the "fourth trimester" myth)
✨ How to teach your daughter that beauty is something she feels before it's something she sees

This episode is for you if:

• You feel lost in motherhood and don't know who you are anymore
• Nothing in your closet feels like "you"
• You're addicted to comfort clothes and can't remember the last time you felt alive in what you're wearing
• You have a daughter and want to raise her differently—teaching her to trust how she feels instead of seeking external validation
• You've hit a glass ceiling in your business or life and can't figure out why
• You're tired of the broken beauty industry profiting off your insecurity

Guest: Sarah Gale (@wearingyourworth)
Sarah Gale is the founder of Wearing Your Worth, a business that explores the psychological relationship we have with clothes. With 30 years in the Australian fashion industry (including senior executive roles and judging Project Runway Australia) and 25 years in personal development, Sarah helps women break free from unconscious programming and discover their true style essences—the key to feeling congruent from the inside out.

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We sat down with @lacycounts - mompreneur, accidental developer, special needs mama, and the most real person you'll meet on the internet.

In This Episode:

• Why Lacy calls herself an "accidental developer" (and an accidental influencer)
• Life with a 9-year-old special needs son who's been sleeping like a newborn for almost a decade
• Running multiple businesses (BBQ restaurant, coffee shop, hair salon, 20,000 sq ft mixed-use development) while raising a nonverbal autistic child
• Why chaos is actually her self-care
• The truth about work-life balance: "If I'm crushing it as a mom, I'm a horrible wife"
• Moving next door to her parents and creating a quasi-compound
• Marriage advice that doesn't involve date nights (spoiler: it involves foot tickles)
• Why leaning in is a lie and you literally cannot give everybody everything all the time

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Join hosts Malliha Ahmad and Corinna Emery for one of our most raw and honest conversations yet with Makeba Lindsay (IG @ynotkeeb), a single mom who’s breaking down every myth about “natural” motherhood. From the brutal reality of hating breastfeeding to literally feeling her brain shrink and return, Makeba shares the unfiltered truth about postpartum recovery, single motherhood, and why your partner can make or break your entire experience.

Key Topics Covered:

The Breastfeeding Reality Check

• Why “the best nutrients on the planet” can still feel impossible

• Hating something you’re “supposed” to love and what that means

• The commitment that carried her through: “just do it like a zombie”

• Finding flow at 6 months when everything finally clicked

Your Brain is Literally Different

• The science behind mom brain: why your brain actually shrinks during pregnancy

• What it feels like when your brain “comes back” after 2 years

• Why you can’t handle challenges the same way you used to

• The “stuckness” that isn’t your fault - it’s biology

C-Section Recovery Reality

• Feeling “everything” while choosing no medication during breastfeeding

• The 12-week clearance myth: “I was in no place to be working out”

• Creating a home gym with baby as “little coach”

• Why movement looks completely different after becoming a mom

Postpartum and Partnership

• The direct correlation between your partner and your postpartum experience

• Why abusive relationships make postpartum depression “10 times worse”

• How partners can literally help bring you out of that space

• The myth that postpartum is something that happens TO partners, not WITH them

Single Mom Doubt and Determination

• “I don’t know if I can do this” - the honest internal dialogue

• Recovering from damage while trying to be present

• The belief that children need two-parent households vs. single mom reality

• Changing your mindset to change everything else

The Celebration We’re Missing

• “Two things can exist” - loving your kids while hating tantrums

• Why we need to celebrate showing up despite feeling unqualified

• The reality: nobody wants to deal with tantrums, and that’s okay

• Recognizing people who abandon their parenting roles vs. those who keep showing up

Connect with Makeba:

Instagram: @ynotkeeb

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