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The book of Ephesians begins by grounding us in who God is and who we are because of Him. God is the all-powerful Creator who made a good and perfect world. Humanity now lives in a world broken by sin, yet out of grace, mercy, and peace, God sent Jesus so that we could be restored into His family.

Throughout the first three chapters of Ephesians, one phrase is repeated again and again: “in Christ.” Because of Jesus, we are no longer captive to sin. We now live in freedom, wholeness, and God’s power.

From chapter four onward, Paul shows us how to live out this new identity. We are called to put off the old self and put on the new. Our emotions, thinking, speech, and relationships are transformed. This is who we are now because of what Jesus has done.

Yet living this out is harder than it sounds. We leave church inspired, ready to love better and live faithfully, but Monday comes. Relationships feel strained. Old habits resurface. Life feels heavier than expected. Eventually, we realise there is more going on than simply “life is hard.”

As Paul reaches chapter six, he makes something clear: we are in a spiritual battle. Whether we recognise it or not, we wake up each day in the middle of it.

Paul writes, “Be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power.” Following Jesus brings opposition, but we are not asked to be strong in our own strength. Many of us feel spiritually worn down and exhausted. That’s okay. God’s strength is what carries us, not ours.

Paul reminds us that our struggle is not against flesh and blood. This matters. If we get this wrong, we end up fighting the wrong battles. We wound people who are actually on our side. People are not the enemy—even those who oppose us may be captives themselves. There are no non-combatants in this battle. We are either captive or standing as soldiers in Christ.

Because of this, Paul urges us to put on the full armour of God so that we can stand firm. He repeats the word “stand” again and again. This is not about charging forward or running away. It is about holding the ground Christ has already won. The victory belongs to Jesus. Our role is to remain planted in that victory.

This armour is not ours. It is God’s armour—perfect, complete, and already victorious. Isaiah describes God as a divine warrior who brings justice when no one else can. Jesus fulfilled this by taking injustice upon Himself at the cross and securing victory once and for all. Now, in Christ, we step into His armour and His mission.

The belt of truth holds everything together. The enemy attacks with lies about God, ourselves, and others. Truth keeps us grounded.
The breastplate of righteousness protects our hearts, especially when relationships come under pressure.
The gospel of peace keeps us ready and focused on the good news that peace with God has been won.
The shield of faith extinguishes doubt, fear, and discouragement.
The helmet of salvation guards our minds and identity.
The sword of the Spirit, the Word of God, is living and powerful, cutting through darkness with truth.

Paul finishes by reminding us how this battle is fought: through prayer. Prayer is not optional. Prayer is warfare. We pray on all occasions, for all God’s people. Even Paul, writing from prison, asks for prayer.

Prayer takes ground, protects others, and brings breakthrough. It is how we stand together.

Paul ends Ephesians where he began—with grace and peace. This peace is wholeness: nothing missing, nothing broken. The victory has already been won. Our call is simple and strong: stand firm in Christ, together.

Ephesians 4 shows us that following Jesus is not behaviour modification — it’s transformation. In this message, Jess walks us through Paul’s vision of what it means to be truly new in Christ: not patched-up, not improved, but remade from the inside out.

We explore:

Why Paul sounds so strong about “the Gentiles”
What hardening of the heart looks and feels like
How sin slowly desensitises us to God’s voice
Why holiness isn’t legalism, but living from our new identity
Three places transformation shows up: speech, emotions, and actions
How to respond when conviction lands and the Spirit taps you on the shoulder

This is a pastoral and practical message calling the church to sensitivity to the Spirit, unity, holiness, and genuine transformation.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Intro + Context of Ephesians
00:43 – A Kingdom Vision for the Church
02:36 – From Vision to Practice
03:05 – The Confronting Part: Why Paul Sounds Harsh
04:27 – What Sin Really Is: Hard Hearts & Self-Reliance
06:21 – How Sin Callouses Us
07:58 – Sin Is Never Neutral
08:48 – Paul Is Writing to Believers
09:50 – The New Life in Christ
10:57 – Taking Off the Old Self
12:27 – Why Behaviour Change Isn’t Enough
14:51 – Identity Shift in Christ
15:58 – What Does New Life Look Like?
16:43 – The “Therefore”: Speech, Anger, Work
18:00 – Speech: A New Way of Talking
19:55 – Emotions: A New Way of Responding
21:13 – Anger & the Genesis Pattern
23:46 – Holding On vs Letting Go
24:23 – Work & Generosity — Kingdom Economics
26:39 – Speech, Emotions, Actions Again
27:20 – Unwholesome vs Building Words
28:20 – Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit
29:26 – Forgive as God Forgave You
29:47 – Follow God’s Example
31:01 – Walk in Love
31:43 – Identity Before Actions
32:38 – Mirror Moment: Old Self or New Self?
33:37 – Where You Might Need to Respond
34:25 – This Is Not Behaviour Modification
35:29 – The Gospel Invitation
36:04 – Ministry Time + Prayer

KEY PASSAGE

Ephesians 4:17–5:2

SCRIPTURE HIGHLIGHTS

"Put off your old self…"
"Be made new in the attitude of your minds…"
"Put on the new self, created to be like God…"
"Do not grieve the Holy Spirit…"
"Be kind and compassionate… forgiving each other…"
"Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children."

REFLECTION QUESTIONS

Where has your heart become calloused or desensitised?
What “old clothes” are you still wearing?
How is your speech reflecting (or contradicting) Christ?

This week Dave shares a hilariously chaotic playgroup coffee-cart story that turns into something deeper: calling, unity, and grace from Ephesians 4:1–16. Why every person’s contribution matters, how to guard unity, and what the fivefold gifts are for. Communion, community, and a practical invitation to “just do your part.”

Themed Sections

1) Calling Is For Everyone (Not Just “Ministry People”)

• Universal call to Christ and a specific call for each person.
• Your vocation can be holy: builders, receptionists, doctors, business owners.
• Live worthy of the call you’ve received.

2) Humble, Gentle, Patient: The Way We Walk

• Passion creates friction; love bears with difference.
• Practical unity habits: pause, pray, slow down before reacting.

3) One Body, One Spirit: Fight for Unity

• Unity requires effort; rows can feel like “spectator church” but we’re a circle in Christ.
• Communion reminds us we share one cup and one loaf.

4) Grace Gifts, Not Merit Badges

• Gifts are grace, not wages.
• Psalm 68 → Exodus → Christ’s ascension: the presence once in the tabernacle now fills His people.

5) The Fivefold (Apostles, Prophets, Evangelists, Pastors, Teachers)

• These are people given to equip the church for works of service.
• Maturity goal: unity, knowledge of the Son, discernment against hype and half-truths.

6) Just Do Your Part

• Every part matters; without you, something’s missing.
• Don’t copy someone else’s gift; bring your own.

Discussion Points (bullet list for listeners/groups)

• What signs of “calling” have you noticed in your current season?
• Where do you feel friction with others’ passions? How can you “bear with” in love?
• Which unity habit (humility, gentleness, patience) is hardest right now?
• Do you know your primary way of building up the body? What’s one next step?
• Where are you vulnerable to online spiritual “noise”? How can community help you discern?

Reflection

Calling isn’t a platform; it’s a posture. The cup you hand a tired parent, the quiet prayer you pray, the conversation you risk—these are holy when done in love. Unity isn’t automatic; we fight for it by walking slowly with one another under the headship of Christ.

Key Scriptures

• Ephesians 4:1–16
• Psalm 68:18 (background to Paul’s quote)
• Exodus 33–40 (tabernacle presence as foreshadow)

Timestamped Outline / Chapters

• 00:00 – Cold open: coffee, chaos, and remembering names
• 03:16 – Why keep doing it? Calling vs preference
• 04:10 – Ephesians shifts: from grace received to grace lived (4–6)
• 05:37 – “Live worthy of the calling” (calling is for everyone)
• 06:46 – Humble, gentle, patient: practical unity habits
• 09:23 – Faithfulness over time: the hidden power of showing up
• 10:46 – Make every effort: fighting for unity
• 12:57 – Communion: one cup, one loaf, one body
• 15:04 – Grace gifts: given, not earned
• 16:16 – Psalm 68 → Exodus → Christ’s ascension (why gifts flow)
• 18:46 – The fivefold: equipping, not elevating
• 20:31 – Example: evangelism gift at work
• 22:06 – Every part matters: stop spectating
• 23:15 – Maturity and discernment in a noisy age
• 24:31 – Christ is the head; follow Him first
• 26:15 – “As each part does its work”: what’s your next step?

Notable Quotes (pull-quotes for socials)

• “Calling isn’t a platform; it’s a posture.”
• “Unity is not automatic; it’s fought for.”
• “Gifts are grace, not wages.”
• “When you do your part, the whole church grows.”
• “Christ is the head—we’re the body. Act like it.”