What does the Bible really mean when Paul says' "It is better to marry than to burn"? 👀

Is that scripture permission to rush into marriage because you'r struggling with lust? Is "burning " talking about hell, sexual desire, loneliness or something deeper?

In this episode of Let's Be Holy For Real, Stephanie and Erica Jewel get REAL about what happens when our desires for marriage become stronger than our desire for God.

🔥Are you looking for love or trying to satisfy the flesh?

🔥Can marriage actually cure lust?

🔥How do you know if it's love, lust or loneliness?

🔥Can attraction become an idol?

🔥Are we dating with intention or dating with desire?

🔥Should pastors and church leaders ever tell a couple they need to get married before they "mess up"?

🔥What does self-control look like when you're attracted to someone?

We're talking about holiness in the REAL world, the moments when somebody looks good, smells good, says the right thing, gives you butterflies...and you have to check yourself. 😂 Because getting married doesn't automatically fix a lack of self-control. And loneliness doesn't disappear just because you said, "I do."

If you're single, dating, divorced, widowed, considering marriage, or simply trying to honor God with your body and your relationship, this conversation is for you.

💬 QUESTION FOR THE COMMENTS:

Have you ever had to stop and ask yourself, "Is this love, lust, or loneliness?" What did God teach you through that experience?

Are you giving the enemy access without realizing it?

In this episode, Pastor Stephanie and Dr. Erica Jewel discuss what it means to “give place to the devil” and how the things we watch, listen to, repeat, pursue, and entertain can subtly open doors in our spiritual lives. From social media and streaming platforms to beauty standards, personal habits, and everyday influences, they challenge believers to examine what captures their attention and whether it draws them closer to God or dulls their sensitivity to Him. Not everything we enjoy is sin, but repeated exposure to certain influences can shift our focus, feed our flesh, and gradually make things that once convicted us seem normal. Sometimes the question is not simply, “Is this wrong?” but “What is this producing in me?”

What We Talk About:

• What it means to “give place to the devil.”
• How seemingly innocent habits can open spiritual doors.
• Recognizing what has your attention and influence.
• How social media, entertainment, and binge-watching can distract us from God.
• Why repeated exposure can dull our spiritual sensitivity.
• Checking the motives behind what we pursue, imitate, and desire.
• Guarding our eye gates and ear gates.
• Using fasting, prayer, discipline, and the Word to refocus on God.
• Feeding the spirit instead of feeding the flesh.
• Allowing the Holy Ghost to reveal what needs to change.
• Why believers must continually take inventory of what they are entertaining.

Some doors were never meant to be opened. The question is: How did you get in here?

Are you being led by the Spirit or driven by ambition, fear, pressure, or the need to prove yourself?

In this episode, Pastor Stephanie and Dr. Erica Jewel discuss what it truly means to surrender your plans, pace, and desires to God. Through personal stories and biblical truth, they remind us that nothing is wasted when God is leading. Even uncomfortable seasons, closed doors, delays, and difficult lessons can prepare us for where He is taking us. A Spirit-led life may not always make sense to others, but when God says move, we must be willing to follow. We're not leaving; we're following Christ.

What We Talk About:

• The difference between being Spirit-led and personally driven.
• Recognizing when ambition, fear, image, or pride is driving you.
• Allowing God to determine the direction and pace of your life.
• Understanding that some difficulties are preparation and not punishment.
• Following God even when your decisions do not make sense to others.
• How mismanaging one season can delay the next.
• Trusting the Good Shepherd to lead you into and out of the difficult places.

Have you truly forgiven...or have you just learned to live with the pain?

In this episode, Pastor Stephanie and Dr. Erica Jewel have an honest conversation about unforgiveness. They talk about how it quietly affects our hearts, our relationships, our spiritual growth, and even our physical and emotional well-being. Many of us say we've forgiven, but what happens when a person's name still triggers anger, old wounds resurface, or bitterness quietly lingers? Together, they explore what genuine forgiveness looks like, why it's often a process, and how God's grace empowers us to release what we've been carrying.

What We Talk About:

• Why unforgiveness is more dangerous than many people realize.
• Signs you may still be holding on to unforgiveness.
• The difference between forgiving and forgetting.
• Family wounds, church hurt, and broken relationships
• Setting healthy boundaries. while still forgiving
• Why forgiveness is essential for spiritual growth and healing.

In this episode of Let's Be Holy For Real, Stephanie and Erica Jewel challenge the popular "self-made" mindset and remind us that everything we are, and everything we have is by the grace of God. They discuss how to pursue success without taking God's glory, the danger of relying on our own strength, and the difference between genuine humility and low self-esteem.

You can celebrate what God has allowed you to accomplish while still recognizing the One who made it possible. We didn't save ourselves, and we cannot sustain ourselves. We are saved by grace, led by God, and called to use every blessing for His glory. If the self-made mentality has found its way into your thinking, it's time to return to the source.

What We Talk About:

• Can a believer truthfully call themselves "self-made"?
• God is the Source, the Master Strategist, and the One who opens doors.
• God gives us ability, knowledge, strength, and opportunities to succeed.
• The Kingdom produces saved people, not self-made people.
• How culture can tempt believers to celebrate independence from God.
• Why success, money, business and career decisions should also be submitted to God.
• Recognizing and confronting pride before it takes root.

What if the biggest thing keeping us from God isn't the "big" sins, but the ones we've learned to excuse?

Repentance isn't just for the moment you first come to Christ. It's a daily posture about of humility, obedience, and surrender. In this episode of Let's Be Holy For Real, we have an honest conversation about why repentance still matters and why it's more than simple saying, " Lord, I'm sorry." True repentance means turning away from the things that separate us from God and allowing Him to transform our hearts. From road rage to "little white lies," workplace integrity, social media, and the posture of our hearts, this conversation challenges us to examine our lives through the lens of God's Word.

What We Talk About:

• Why repentance isn't outdated and why it's essential for every believer.
• Is apologizing enough, or does true repentance require a changed life?
• Why Christians should continue to repent.
• What it really means to turn away from sin.
• White lies, workplace dishonesty, taking what isn't yours, and other everyday compromises.
• Understanding the difference between deliberate rebellion and human weakness.
• How the Holy Spirit corrects us and how the enemy accuses us. Why God's mercy should lead us to transformation, not complacency.
• What following Jesus looks like in everyday decisions.
• How turning back to God brings peace, joy, and spiritual freedom.

Pride isn't always loud. Sometimes it hides behind church language, fake humility, religious performance, and the desire to be seen as "spiritual." In this honest conversation, Pastor Stephanie and Dr. Erica Jewel explore the subtle ways pride can disguise itself in the life of a believer. From performing in church and seeking recognition to social media influence, Christian culture, and even the difference between being spiritual and being led by the Holy Spirit, this episode challenges us to examine our motives and invite God to search our hearts.

What We Talk About:

• Pride doesn't always look arrogant, it can look deeply religious.
• Is fake humility actually pride in disguise?
• Performing for people versus worshiping for God.
• The hidden desire to be seen as a "spiritual one."
• Why our motives matter more than our outward actions.
• How compliments can become a test of humility.
• Is today's church beginning to resemble the world?
• How to honestly ask God to search our hearts.

Have you ever heard a scripture preached or quoted and thought, "Wait...is that really what that means?" This week on Let's Be Holy For Real, we're talking about rightly dividing the Word, understanding Scripture in context, and being careful not to make the Bible say what we want it to say. Because the Word is too powerful to mishandle. Get in the Word. Let the Word get in you. And let's be holy for real.

What We Talk About:

• The difference between reading the Bible and studying the Bible
• Why context is essential when interpreting Scripture
• The danger of using Scripture to support personal preferences
• Bible study tools that can help you grow
• How God's Word reveals deeper understanding over time
• Why Scripture should transforms us - not simply entertain us