Valentine’s Day is over… now what?Did it go amazing? A little awkward? Quietly disappointing? Or are you still low-key arguing about it?In this episode of Imperfectly Married, Michael and Heather unpack the emotional aftermath of Valentine’s Day through the lens of the Enneagram. Because here’s the truth: unmet expectations aren’t failure — they’re information.From the Type One’s inner critic, to the Type Two’s unspoken needs, to the Type Six’s anxiety spiral, to the Type Seven’s urge to move on fast — every personality processes disappointment differently. And if we don’t slow down and reflect, we risk retreating instead of repairing.If you don’t know your Enneagram type, take our free assessment on our website.Website: https://imperfectlymarriedpodcast.com/Merch: https://imperfectlymarriedpodcast.com/storeInstagram: imperfectlymarried_thepodcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@imperfectly_married

Valentine’s Day can feel romantic… or really overwhelming.In this episode, we talk about the pressure behind February 14th — the expectations, the disappointments, and the silent resentment that can build when needs go unspoken. Why does one day carry so much weight in marriage? And how can couples shift from performance to presence?We unpack:• Why unspoken expectations lead to hurt• How fear of “getting it wrong” creates distance• Why comparison (especially on social media) makes it worse• How to actually celebrate love in a meaningful wayValentine’s Day doesn’t define your marriage — but it can reveal where you need connection, communication, and growth.If you don’t know your Enneagram type, take our free assessment on our website.Website: https://imperfectlymarriedpodcast.com/Merch: https://imperfectlymarriedpodcast.com/storeInstagram: imperfectlymarried_thepodcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@imperfectly_married

Why does emotional intimacy come so naturally to some people and feel absolutely overwhelming to others? In this Enneagram Edition of Imperfectly Married, Michael and Heather slow the conversation down and explore the deeper reasons emotional closeness can feel safe, confusing, or even terrifying depending on your personality wiring.Building on the previous episode about developing emotional intimacy, this conversation goes beneath surface-level skills and looks at fear, safety, needs, stories, and spiritual formation through the lens of the Enneagram. You’ll learn how each of the nine Enneagram types approaches emotional intimacy, what blocks vulnerability for each type, and how those patterns quietly shape trust, connection, and distance in marriage.From the Type One’s struggle with imperfection, to the Type Two’s habit of giving without receiving, to the Type Five’s fear of depletion, to the Type Nine’s tendency to disappear to keep the peace, this episode brings clarity and compassion to the ways couples protect themselves emotionally. Michael and Heather also weave in insights from the Gottman Institute, Scripture, and real-life marriage experience to show how emotional intimacy grows when people feel seen, safe, and secure.Don't know what your enneagram type is? Take the assessment for free on our website:https://imperfectlymarriedpodcast.com/Find us online:Website: https://imperfectlymarriedpodcast.com/Merch: https://imperfectlymarriedpodcast.com/storeInstagram: imperfectlymarried_thepodcast Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61576918626044TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@imperfectly_married