This week, the Biffs dive into Coleen Nolan’s Mirror column and immediately ask: should we be allowed to know this much about strangers? We’ve got forbidden fantasies about a fiancé’s sister (ma’am??), a working parent doing pre-shift cocaine while the kids remain blissfully unaware, and a grief dilemma where “respecting wishes” collides with “I still need closure.” It’s horny, dark, sad, and somehow funny — and Stefani and Ray do what they do best: spiral, empathize, roast (gently), and offer extremely unlicensed advice along the way. [Lagaria Pinot Grigio, 2022]

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This week, the Biffs drop into Reddit’s Am I the Asshole?, where feelings are inconvenient and accountability is theoretical. A man asks his wife to stop crying in a Home Depot like it’s a customer service issue, another apologizes to his mom for his wife to keep Family Day “smooth,” and a friendship detonates when a dog eats someone else’s meds and a $1,500 vet bill shows up demanding answers. Stefani and Ray tear into public tears, peacekeeping that looks a lot like betrayal, and the eternal question of modern adulthood: when everything goes sideways, who’s actually responsible? Come for the chaos. Stay for the verdicts. [Juggernaut Russian River Pinot Noir, 2022]

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This week, the Biffs crack open The Washington Post’s Carolyn Hax column and immediately regret having functional nervous systems. We tackle a family who keeps serving seafood despite a life-threatening allergy (because vibes > survival, apparently), a woman wondering if it’s fine to marry a man she’s not excited about as long as he’d make a solid dad, and a soon-to-be father who went bungee jumping and was shocked to discover his very pregnant wife was not amused. Stefani and Ray bring their usual best-friend banter, emotional honesty, and low tolerance for nonsense as they talk boundaries, risk, resentment, and why “it seemed like a good idea at the time” is not a personality trait. [Colossal Reserva Red, 2019]

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