In this episode of the podcast, Silvan and Declan are joined by special guest Lizzy, who is a college athletics coach, former competitive thrower, and co-host of the Shelf aware Podcast, for a conversation about masculinity, sport, and emotional expression.

Drawing on her lived experience as both an athlete and a coach working closely with young men in sport, Lizzy offers an insider perspective on the pressures, expectations, and unspoken rules that shape male athletes. We explore how environments like hockey and elite sport more broadly, rewarding emotional suppression, reinforce narrow definitions of masculinity and often leave little room for vulnerability.

We also unpack the contrasting ways characters like Shane and Ilya navigate these pressures, linking their behaviours to real-world dynamics in coaching, team culture, and performance psychology. Our conversation moves between theory and lived experience, touching on concepts like anxiety and performance, the role of coaches as emotional role models and the long-term impact of treating athletes as commodities rather than people.

Lizzie also reflects candidly on her experience as a woman coaching in a male-dominated space, highlighting the challenges and the unique opportunities to shift culture.

This is part one of a two-part discussion, so be sure to tune in next week for part two for more analysis.

The next episode of the podcast will be published on Sunday 26th April at 10am (GMT).

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Chapters

00:00 Welcome to the Podcast

01:21 Exploring Masculinity in Sports

03:08 Lizzie's Background in Sports and Coaching

06:46 The Role of Coaches in Athlete Development

08:35 Differences in College Sports: US vs UK

12:40 NIL Deals and Athlete Compensation

16:50 The Pressure of Being a Student-Athlete

20:37 Behavioral Expectations in Sports

24:53 Anxiety and Performance in Athletes

30:33 Mental Health Awareness in Sports

36:20 The Role of the Therapist in Psychodynamic Therapy

37:26 Impact of External Factors on Athletic Performance

38:25 The Need for Emotional Role Models in Sports

39:52 Coaching Beyond the Game: Building Relationships

41:19 The Evolution of Coaching Methodologies

42:24 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence in Coaching

45:28 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles in Coaching

49:29 Empowerment Through Coaching: A New Perspective

54:33 The Future of Coaching: Teaching Beyond the Sport