Identity Reset: Rediscover Who You Are Beyond Motherhood, Work & Adult Responsibilities

In this week’s episode of The Nicola Graham Podcast, I’m sharing how to rediscover who you are beyond motherhood, work and the daily responsibilities of adult life. an identity reset to help you move into spring feeling focused, clear and re-motivated.

I open up about viewing a new house and the unexpected fear and emotion that surfaced, despite wanting change, and how that mirrors any transformation journey, where the reality of growth feels far more uncomfortable than the fantasy.

I also share a client story about making a bold career pivot after realising her health and identity no longer aligned with her job, and I break down the five Thriving Pillars I coach around: fitness, nutrition, mindset, stress management and sleep.

The heart of the episode is a guided exercise exploring your current self, past self and future self, helping you get clear on your habits, beliefs, boundaries and the woman you’re becoming. Because identity is built through action, and while you can have it all, you can’t have it all at once.

I close with an invitation to join us for the Thriving Women Wellness Walk on Sunday 8th March at 8:30am on New Brighton Waterfront, fresh air, steps, coffee and good conversation.

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00:00 Identity Reset: Rediscover You Beyond Motherhood & Responsibilities

01:21 No Magic Pill: Why Identity Drives Real Change

02:30 Unfiltered: Moving House & The Comfort Zone Reality Check

06:54 Client Spotlight: The Scary Leap That Changes Everything

09:50 The 5 Thriving Pillars (Fitness, Nutrition, Mindset, Stress, Sleep)

11:58 Grab Your Notes: The 3 Selves Framework (Current, Past, Future)

14:39 Current Self Audit: Roles, Emotions, Habits & Beliefs

19:25 Past Self Reflection: Who Were You Before Work & Motherhood?

22:15 What Changed Over Time: Anxiety, Hypervigilance & Losing Old Joys

24:04 Reclaiming Strengths & Traits: Bringing Back the Parts You Miss

24:52 Reclaiming the ‘glam’ version of you (even if it’s just hair down)

26:17 Past self check-in: What parts of you do you miss?

26:40 Get clear on your direction (stop chasing highlight reels)

27:43 AI, Instagram & the inauthentic internet: what can you trust?

29:18 Quick dopamine reset: unfollow what doesn’t align

30:03 Design your future self: no limits, just evolution

31:29 How she thinks & decides: boundaries, wellbeing, thriving

33:07 Back-engineer the habits: realistic, repeatable identity actions

35:33 You can have it all… just not all at once (career, family, fat loss)

40:18 Non-negotiables & confidence: defining identity beyond the scale

44:08 Wrap-up: take action, prioritize health, and join the Wellness Walk