What actually changes when you date across genders?

In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Kate Telge to break down what dating men vs. dating women really looks like — beyond stereotypes and assumptions.

We talk about:

• Stepping into the pursuer role for the first time

• Limerence in same-sex relationships — and how quickly it can build

• The “U-Haul lesbian” stereotype — and why there's some truth to it

• How requiring a high-effort dinner date can unintentionally reward performative men

• Why identity and politics can “blow minds” in Austin’s dating scene

• And why communication issues aren’t a gender problem — attachment issues show up everywhere

This conversation doesn’t pretend men and women are the same in dating. There are real differences in dynamics, expectations, and social conditioning. But it also makes one thing clear: not everything can be reduced to gender. Attachment style, power dynamics, identity, and self-awareness still shape outcomes — no matter who you’re dating.

If you’ve ever wondered what actually changes when you date across genders — and what doesn’t — this episode is for you.

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Kate Telge is a community builder with a background in tech. She’s led community strategy at companies like Meta, Supernatural, and Tonal, and now runs Open Spaces, a storytelling series in Austin, and Maiven Collective, a community for women founders. She is training for her next HYROX race, and she dreams of one day opening an animal rescue.