Discover how triggers in relationships can actually be gifts for growth. Bahia Miller guides you in noticing your emotional, mental, and physical reactions, turning inward to understand your parts, and practicing curiosity instead of blame. Learn how to pause, reflect, and respond skillfully to build self-sovereignty and healthier connections.

Free Resources

• Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklist
• Unblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unblend

Work with Bahia:
If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.

Want to go deeper into the work?
🎧 For our podcast community:
Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22
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*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*

Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.

Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this work, no specific outcomes are promised, and each person’s healing and relationship journey is unique.

Please listen with discernment, self-responsibility, and care for your own nervous system. When needed, seek support from qualified professionals who can meet you in your specific context.

Bahia Miller explores three foundational strategies for approaching the question “Can this relationship be saved?”—especially when things have been hard for a long time.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

• Why detaching from a specific outcome can restore clarity and choice
• How turning toward your pain (and resentment) reveals powerful inner lessons
• What it looks like to embody your inner work in real relationship
• The difference between saving a relationship and saving your relationship to yourself
• How to discern whether your partner has the capacity to grow with you

A gentle invitation:
As you listen, notice where you may be choosing attachment over authenticity—or where your inner parts are asking for more honesty, care, or responsibility.

Free Resources:

• Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklist
• Unblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unblend

Work with Bahia:
If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.

Want to go deeper into the work?
🎧 For our podcast community:
Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22
Use code PODCAST

✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller

*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*

Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.

Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this work, no specific outcomes are promised, and each person’s healing and relationship journey is unique.

Please listen with discernment, self-responsibility, and care for your own nervous system. When needed, seek support from qualified professionals who can meet you in your specific context.

Bahia Miller defines SELF LED LOVE and the importance & nuance of taking responsibility for your parts, building trust with yourself, and showing up consciously in relationships.

Learn how noticing and tending to your inner parts can reduce reactivity, deepen connection, and transform relationship cycles. Self-led love is about awareness, repair, and growth—not perfection.

Free Resources:

• Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklist
• Unblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unblend

Work with Bahia:
If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.

Want to go deeper into the work?
🎧 For our podcast community:
Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22
Use code PODCAST

✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller

*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*

Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.

Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this work, no specific outcomes are promised, and each person’s healing and relationship journey is unique.

Please listen with discernment, self-responsibility, and care for your own nervous system. When needed, seek support from qualified professionals who can meet you in your specific context.