Do you fight because of what your spouse did, or because of what you want? And what if the greatest problem in your marriage isn't actually your partner—but your own unchecked desires?

In this episode, we tackle the uncomfortable truth about conflict in marriage. Drawing from James 4:1-2, we reveal that fights don't primarily come from personality differences, stress, or even our spouse's behavior—they come from our own passions at war within us.

We expose how conflict reveals what we're worshiping in our hearts. When we demand comfort, control, being right, respect, or ease, we're practicing self-idolatry. As we say: "I must have control" really means "I'll sin when I lose it." "I must have affirmation" means "I'll punish you when I don't get it." "I must win" means "I'll wound you to do it." This is spiritual immaturity—putting ourselves above our spouse.

We close with this truth: Conflict isn't proof your marriage is broken—it's proof you're both sinners in need of grace. And grace is not scarce in a gospel-centered marriage. The more you fill yourself with who Christ is and what His Word says, the closer those truths will be to your thoughts in the middle of conflict.

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