Stop reacting and start responding. Emotional development expert Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., explains how to understand and fix your unique nervous system today. Feeling overwhelmed, snappy, or like you're constantly "treading water" just to stay afloat? You’re likely living in a state of nervous system dysregulation. In this episode, New York Times bestselling author Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., breaks down the science of emotion regulation and why most of us never learned these essential adulting skills in our youth.

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We dive deep into the crucial difference between "coping mechanisms" that provide temporary dopamine hits—like substance use or impulsive shopping—and "coping strategies" that produce lasting serotonin and oxytocin to truly calm the body. Alyssa introduces the Collaborative Emotion Processing (CEP) method, explaining how our unique sensory systems—including proprioceptive and vestibular senses—dictate how we experience stress and how we must recharge.

Whether you are navigating "sensory mismatches" in your marriage, trying to handle a child’s grocery store meltdown, or recovering from trauma, this conversation provides a roadmap to self-awareness and self-control. Discover insights from her New York Times bestseller, Tiny Humans, Big Emotions , and learn why "microdosing" self-regulation throughout the day is the key to lasting peace.

⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – Intro: The "Only Way Out is Through"

10:33 – What is emotion regulation?

28:09 – How do I know if I'm dysregulated?

40:19 – Does nervous system reset actually work?

41:41 – What is the fastest way to calm myself down?

❓ Questions the Video Answers:

1. What is the difference between emotion regulation and self-control?
2. How do I know if my nervous system is dysregulated?
3. Why do I use online shopping or social media to cope with stress?
4. Does a nervous system reset really work or is it just buzzword hype?
5. How does childhood trauma affect my adult stress reactions?
6. What is the fastest way to calm down during a moment of rage?
7. Why am I so sensitive to small sounds like clicking or chewing?
8. How can I stop being sarcastic and snippy when I'm stressed?
9. What are "legacy blessings" and "legacy burdens" in parenting?
10. How do I handle a sensory mismatch with my partner or child?
11. Is deep breathing actually effective for regulating emotions?
12. What is the proprioceptive sense and how does it help with anxiety?
13. How do I stop "treading water" and start actually healing?
14. Why can't a dysregulated adult calm a dysregulated child?
15. What are the best tools for "microdosing" self-regulation?

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