Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-Mediator Guest: Laurie Gerber, Love Coach, Founder of Laurie Gerber Coaching Inc. Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Website: highvibemediation.com Instagram: @highvibedivorce

Dating after divorce can feel exhilarating, overwhelming, or… completely off the table. Whether you’re ready to jump back in, think you’ll “never date again,” or just want to understand how to approach love more intentionally, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

Melissa is joined by Laurie Gerber, a seasoned love coach, TEDx speaker, and creator of Master the Art of Love, a digital course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. With over 20 years of coaching experience—including as former President of the Handel Group’s Life Coaching Division—Laurie has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them find and sustain love at every stage of life.

They discuss how to know when you’re ready to date again, how to approach casual vs. serious dating, the importance of learning from past relationship patterns, and why clarity about what you truly want—head, heart, and hoo-ha—makes all the difference.

“The more we love, the more we can love. Love is limitless. Love begets love.” — Letting Go Deck by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.

Melissa reflects on the anabolic power of love—how romantic, platonic, familial, or self-love can expand your capacity for joy and healing after divorce. Whether or not you’re looking for a relationship right now, this episode will inspire you to believe in new chapters.

• Are You Ready to Date Again? Laurie’s 26-question quiz helps you assess your emotional, logistical, and family readiness to step back into the dating world.

• Head, Heart & Hoo-ha Framework: Laurie shares her signature tool for evaluating potential partners through intellect, emotional connection, and physical chemistry—equally.

• Casual Dating vs. Serious Love: Why taking a “gap year” to explore, have fun, and learn what you truly want can make future relationships healthier and less overwhelming.

• Learning from Past Relationships: How to spot patterns from previous marriages or partnerships to avoid repeating them.

• Dating Apps vs. Real Life: Practical advice on choosing the right dating sites, using them efficiently, and balancing online and offline opportunities.

• Energetic Readiness & Legal Realities: Why it matters to clean up unfinished business—emotionally and legally—before calling in your next great love.

Laurie Gerber is a love coach, writer, and speaker who has appeared on The Today Show, Dr. Phil, MTV, A&E, and as the resident love expert for Match, Zoosk, and JDate. She hosts the Love at Any Age podcast and is passionate about helping people find healthy, lasting love through truth-telling and intentional strategy.

• Website: lauriegerber.com

• Podcast: Love at Any Age

• TEDx Talk: The Secret Free Diet

• Instagram: @lauriegerbercoach

• Website: highvibemediation.com

• Instagram: @highvibedivorce

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Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-Mediator Guest: Betsy Kelly, Divorce Coach & Host of Divorce Stories Podcast Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Website: highvibemediation.com Instagram: @highvibedivorce

In this heartfelt and practical episode, Melissa welcomes Betsy Kelly, known online as The Divorce Doula. Betsy is a divorce coach, podcast host, and divorced mom who blends professional training with personal experience to help others navigate divorce with more clarity, calm, and intention.

They dive deep into what a divorce doula is, the power of nervous system regulation, why community and spirituality are essential during divorce, and how intentional daily choices can create a “high vibe” divorce that sets the stage for a better future.

This episode is short, sweet, and full of wisdom for anyone facing divorce — especially those seeking grounding, emotional support, and tools beyond the legal system.

“Although letting go seems simple and easy, its ultimate effects are profoundly powerful.”

—from the Letting Go Deck, inspired by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. (Author of Letting Go, a must-read for anyone navigating spiritual and emotional healing through divorce.)

• The Role of a Divorce Doula: Betsy compares divorce coaching to her experience with a birth doula — a warm, wise guide helping clients make informed, values-aligned decisions throughout the process.

• Nervous System Regulation During Divorce: Regulation isn’t one-size-fits-all. Betsy helps clients identify personalized practices (e.g., meditation, intense exercise, journaling, music, holding kids) to stay grounded and make clear decisions.

• Telling Your Divorce Story to Eradicate Shame: Betsy shares her own divorce journey and why she launched the Divorce Stories Podcast — to give voice to experiences that are often hidden, isolating, or stigmatized.

• Community, Spirituality & Support: Both Melissa and Betsy emphasize the importance of leaning on community — whether spiritual, familial, or chosen — to combat the disorientation and social restructuring that often accompany divorce.

• Coaching vs. Attorneys & Mediators: A coach or doula provides emotional regulation and intentional guidance that attorneys and mediators, bound by their roles, cannot offer. This support can reduce conflict, save money, and improve outcomes.

• Training & Professionalism in Divorce Coaching: Betsy’s training through Divorce Coaches Academy centers on conflict resolution and structured sessions — highlighting the difference between trained professionals and unregulated “coaches.”

• Daily Orientation Toward Your True North: Betsy encourages listeners to ask themselves daily: “What kind of divorce do I want? What do I want my kids to remember about this time?” Small intentional actions add up to a radically different outcome.

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• Instagram: @highvibedivorce

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• 00:00 – Welcome & Affirmation: “Although letting go…”

• 02:30 – What is a Divorce Doula?

• 08:15 – Regulation Practices & Nervous System Tools

• 15:40 – Shame, Storytelling & Launching Divorce Stories

• 22:00 – Community, Spirituality & Social Restructuring

• 28:10 – Coaching vs. Legal Support Roles

• 36:20 – Training, Professionalism & Reducing Conflict

• 43:00 – Betsy’s Daily Divorce Mindset: Finding True North

• 48:00 – How to Work with Betsy + Final Thoughts

Episode 39 – Maintaining Your Calm and Approaching Your Divorce Like a Business Transaction with Courtney Harkness, CDC, MBA

Welcome back to High Vibe Divorce! In this episode, Melissa is joined by Courtney Harkness, a Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) and MBA with a corporate background who now supports women through the emotional and financial complexities of divorce. Known for her calm, nonjudgmental presence and strategic mindset, Courtney helps clients detach from drama, set strong boundaries, and approach divorce like the high-stakes negotiation it truly is.

Together, Melissa and Courtney explore how to emotionally stabilize, set a strategic game plan, and execute your divorce with clarity and composure. From setting boundaries to managing high-conflict personalities, they share actionable tips for keeping your cool and protecting your peace—while still getting a fair deal.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why viewing divorce as a business transaction is empowering for women

• The three-step approach: Stabilize, Strategize, Execute

• How to manage emotional manipulation and financial secrecy

• Practical tools for responding (not reacting) to nasty texts or emails

• How not reacting is your divorce superpower

• What to gather financially before working with a divorce coach

• Why narcissist labels don’t matter—and what to focus on instead

• The emotional letdown of being “officially” divorced—and how to prepare

• The vital role of a certified divorce coach in high-conflict or high-stakes cases

• Tips for spiritual grounding and post-divorce transformation

✨ Affirmation of the Episode: “I establish boundaries to support my freedom.”

Guest Info: Learn more about Courtney Harkness and her coaching services at elitedivorcehelp.com

Follow Courtney on Instagram: @elitedivorcehelp

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