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Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD

Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD

Von: Dr. Tanner Wallace | CPTSD Resolution & IFS Training | CPTSD Medicine
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 So many CPTSD survivors reach a moment where they think, "I have done so much work. Why am I still getting triggered, especially around this one person?" This podcast explores the true root of our relationship issues: CPTSD. Why certain symptoms feel impossible to escape. Why certain people activate our most entrenched patterns. Why survivors often feel ashamed for "tolerating" what harmed them. This is not about self-blame. It is about understanding how CPTSD trains your system to normalize what should never have been acceptable. You will hear a truth most professionals never name: The first relational injury to repair must be the internal one. Your secure internal attachment to yourself is the foundation for every healthy relationship you will ever have. You will also hear something that is rarely said out loud: CPTSD can be resolved. It does not have to be your lifelong identity. Two years of structured, root-cause healing can move you from "I have CPTSD" to "I had CPTSD, and it no longer runs my life." Many listeners tell me they have never heard an expert speak this way. Talk therapy helped them understand their story, but it did not teach them how to heal the patterns at the root. If you are ready for survivor-to-survivor truth-telling that actually move you forward in your CPTSD Resolution, this podcast is for you. New episodes every Friday. Visit www.cptsdmedicine.com to explore more.© 2025 Tanner Wallace, PhD from CPTSD Medicine LLC. All rights reserved. Hygiene & gesundes Leben Persönliche Entwicklung Persönlicher Erfolg Seelische & Geistige Gesundheit
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