This week on The Handsome Hour, Wes, Cody, and Stony give dating advice with strong opinions, questionable metaphors, and a sincere desire to help you stop sabotaging yourself.

The fellas break down "radio silence" before a first date, why modern dating feel scriptless, why high-bandwidth communication beats endless texting, and the simple confirmation move that keeps you from getting ghosted.

When a guy asks a woman her weight and calls her "hefty," where's the line between honesty, tact, and being an idiot? Plus: why first impressions can be wildly misleading, the case for giving things a little more runway, and Stony's coin-flip experiment.

Finally, the conversation widens out to the big stuff: money, housing, status, height, and why dating feels harder than it used to. The guys argue for playing Moneyball(s) with your love life — stop competing where you can't win, lean in to your unique "market alpha," and go where real connection actually happens.

Prepare to get handsome.

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In this debut episode of The Handsome Hour, Wes, Stony, and Cody riff on why modern dating feels broken, jumping from matchmakers cold-messaging people on LinkedIn to the stigma and selection effects of “needing” help. Cody lays out his “vertical vs. horizontal preferences” framework (status traits vs. idiosyncratic fit), argues that most people misread their own dating-market value, and makes the case that NYC turns romance into an extractive spreadsheet game that drains the magic out of meeting someone. They also get unexpectedly philosophical about marriage as a “technology” that used to work because commitment was real and escape was harder, with some memorable detours into misophonia, putting your “worst foot forward” as a filtering strategy, and a closing tangent on jealousy and cuckoo birds that tees up an even weirder episode two.

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