#53: Wild Pregnancy & Free Birth - with Bec Oakaiah

In this raw and activating episode, I sit down with traditional birthkeeper Bec Oakaiah, The Jurassic Coast Birthkeeper, for a powerful conversation on wild pregnancy, freebirth and reclaiming physiological birth in a culture that has almost forgotten what women's bodies are capable of.

This is a conversation for any woman who is dreaming of pregnancy, preparing for conception, already pregnant, or simply feels a quiet pull that birth could be more wild, more holy, and more hers than the stories she's been given.

Together we dive into:

• The true meaning of wild pregnancy and freebirth beyond the online controversy

• How our own birth imprints become the first lens through which we experience life

• How hospital environments, timelines and authority can interrupt physiology

• The rising caesarean rates and why Bec believes this has "fuck all to do with physiology"

• Using the menstrual cycle as monthly ritual to clear fear and prepare for future rites of passage

• Why unpacking our birth stories, motherline and cultural conditioning matters long before labour

• How unprocessed fears in pregnancy often surface in labour if they're never fully met

• The importance of environment, food, rest, and who you invite into your birth space

• Authority dynamics in medical systems, and why so many women feel they "had no choice"

• Why no professional – midwife, doctor, doula or birthkeeper – is more of an expert on your baby than you are

• Walking with death as a companion through pregnancy, and birth as death-rebirth for mother, placenta and identity

• Postpartum as the true gestation of the Mother, and why postpartum planning is just as vital as "birth plans"

• How long healing can really take, and why sensitivity in the body is a feature, not a flaw

• Unpacking our relationship with authority as essential preparation if we choose to interact with the system at all

• Why Bec believes physiological birth is on the cusp of extinction – and what it means to be part of its reclamation

• Birth, miscarriage, abortion, postpartum and menstruation as one continuous feminine continuum of death–rebirth

About Our Guest, Bec, The Jurassic Coast Birthkeeper

Bec is a traditional birthkeeper rooted on England's Jurassic Coast. She midwifes the soul through holistic birth, death and all the thresholds in between. Her work centres on the liberation and protection of physiological birth, the remembrance of ancient and indigenous birth wisdom, and guiding women back to unshakeable trust in their own bodies, babies and inner authority.

She walks with women – especially first-time mothers – who are called to wild pregnancy, freebirth and home birth, and also tends to the wider field of birthworkers through education, mentorship and community devoted to the reclamation of birth as a rite of passage.

Connect with Bec

Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/becoakaiah/

Mother + holistic birthkeeper. remembering the ancient ways of sacred birth.

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Website — www.melissasanger.com

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This episode is an offering to every woman who has ever bled, will one day birth, has birthed, has lost, or is simply remembering that her body was always designed for the wild, intelligent mystery of life moving through her.

In this raw, deeply intimate and important episode, I sit down with menstrual artist, feminine embodiment mentor, and founder of Sacred Woman, Jasmine Alicia Carter, for a profound conversation that lives at the intersection of the womb, death, rebirth, grief, power and feminine initiation.

Both myself and Jasmine experienced conscious abortions within the last two years. This episode is a rare and necessary dialogue, one that dissolves taboo, unravels shame, and opens a doorway into the spiritual, emotional, energetic and physical dimensions of abortion as a rite of passage.

This is a conversation for any woman who has walked this path, loves someone who has, or desires to understand the deeper feminine mysteries that live within the threshold between life and death.

Together we dive into:

• The untold emotional, spiritual and psychic landscape of conscious abortion

• How abortion can initiate a descent into the dark feminine, shadow, and underworld

• The difference between cultural guilt and true inner knowing

• Listening to the body's wisdom through pregnancy, grief, and choice

• How to navigate the polarity, projections, and judgments from family, culture, and community

• The mystical dimension of womb consciousness and feminine spiritual awakening

• Meeting death through the womb and returning to the mystery

• The role of ritual, prayer, blood offerings, and conscious completion

• How grief cycles through the womb over months and how to process it safely

• Why abortion is often the gateway that brings many women home to their womb for the first time

• Post-abortion care: nourishment, womb massage, steaming, sisterhood, ritual, and tending to the cervix

• How to relate to the spirit of the child with reverence, closure, and connection

• The importance of support, from partners, sisters, and bodyworkers, in healing the emotional and spiritual layers of the experience

• Abortion as an initiation into the maturity, depth, and power of the feminine

• How to reconnect with God, intuition, and personal truth through the process

• Why both Melissa and Jasmine see abortion, miscarriage, birth, and menstruation as part of the same feminine continuum
  
  

About Our Guest, Jasmine Alicia Carter

Jasmine is a menstrual artist, feminine embodiment mentor, mother, wife and founder of Sacred Woman, a global brand devoted to empowering women to return to holistic balance, womb-centered living, and embodied feminine truth.

She is also the creator of the Menstrual Art Movement, a nonprofit with thousands of women worldwide, and the owner of Sacred Woman Boutique, offering tools for sexual sovereignty and feminine awakening.

Connect with Jasmine
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/jasminealiciacarter/
Sacred Woman Website — www.sacredwoman.com
Menstrual Art Movement — @menstrualartmovement
Sacred Woman Boutique — @sacredwomanboutique
Abortion PDF: https://omniform1.com/forms/v1/landingPage/63ca7ff4243dfa1cf3aa6bde/68fb2eee2d00685cde953df8

Connect with Melissa
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/iammelissasanger
Website — www.melissasanger.com
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This episode is an offering to every woman who has ever held life, released life, grieved life, or discovered herself through the womb's deepest mysteries.

In this delicious and deep conversation, Melissa is joined by her dear client, sister and fellow devotee of sacred sexuality, Sasha Lotus, for a sensual and soulful exploration of the link between sexuality and spirituality.

Sasha had just completed a one week 1:1 immersion with Melissa – 6 days of receiving Ceremonial Womb & Yoni Massage, aswell as womb healing work and somatic sexual healing with Melissa as her guide.

Together they dive deep into the energetic and physiological wisdom of the yoni, cervix, womb, and ovaries, and how pleasure becomes a pathway to God.

Melissa shares her experience of touching divine oneness through orgasm, plant medicine, and meditation, while Sasha opens up about her own sexual awakening and multidimensionality as a woman. The two discuss Yoni Massage, pleasure awakening and how sacred touch can faciliate deep healing in the female body.

• The mystical intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and God-union

• How pleasure and orgasm open the doorway to oneness and divine remembrance
  
  

• The spiritual anatomy and consciousness of the womb, cervix, ovaries, and Yoni
  
  

• Kundalini activation, energetic pleasure, and the multi-dimensional body
  
  

• The power of Womb & Yoni Massage for healing sexual trauma, grief, numbness, and shame
  
  

• The physiological and energetic benefits of cervical activation
  
  

• How the heart–womb connection shape female pleasure
  
  

• The importance of self-pleasure, self-massage, and loving devotion to the body
  
  

• The energetic and emotional intelligence of the feminine body

Instagram — @iammelissasanger
Instagram — @iamsashalotus
Website — www.melissasanger.com

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