In this episode, host Kim Loliya delves into the complexities of mothering and smothering, particularly in the context of intergenerational trauma and societal pressures. Kim reflects on the toxic culture surrounding New Year's resolutions and the systemic forces that shape our desires for change. The conversation transitions into an exploration of smothering behaviors, their roots in fear and anxiety, and the cultural dynamics that perpetuate them. Kim acknowledges the importance of recognizing these patterns and working towards healthier relationships, both as mothers and as individuals who have been smothered.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to My Mother’s Trauma Podcast

01:33 Resolutions are Colonial

06:01 Decolonial Freebies Coming Up at Black Psychotherapy

08:59 The Continuum of Harmful Mothering

10:43 Smothering in Black, Brown and Indigenous Mothers

15:13 Deconstructing Smothering

18:25 Smothering Ingrained in Culture

19:49 From Smothering (Back) To Mothering

30:28 Outro

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CREDITS

• Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E
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