Most dads want to be a good dad. But what if that’s the wrong goal?

In this episode, I challenge one of the most common and most misleading pursuits in fatherhood. Because being a “good dad” isn’t determined by how much we provide, how hard we work, or how many things we do right.

It’s determined by our relationship with our child.

Using biblical insight and real-life fatherhood perspective, we unpack:

• Why “good dad” is a status you don’t get to assign yourself
• The danger of doing all the right things while missing what your kids actually need
• How provision, protection, and presence can still fall short

You can give your kids the world, but if they needed your shoulder and didn’t get it, you missed the point.

This conversation will challenge you to stop chasing fatherhood checklists and start building the kind of relationship your kids will one day thank God for.

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Fatherhood changes everything, especially our expectations.

Many dads step into parenting with ambition, personal standards, and a vision for what excellence looks like, only to feel frustrated when they cannot seem to measure up once children enter the picture.

In this episode, we revisit expectations and why so many fathers quietly wrestle with feeling like they are falling short.

Looking at Luke 14 and the principle of counting the cost, we talk about what it means to see the full scope of fatherhood. This includes not only the daily responsibilities, but also the long term calling of raising and discipling children.

You will hear:

• Why unrealistic expectations create frustration
• The shift from individual success to family leadership
• How fatherhood reshapes priorities and convenience
• Why you do not have to win every daily battle
• The importance of seeing the long term vision for your children

If you have ever felt overwhelmed, behind, or inadequate as a dad, this conversation will help you reframe your expectations and lead your family with clarity and patience.

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Are your kids doing things for you because they love you… or because they feel like they have to manage your emotions?

In this episode, I unpack a powerful conversation that forced me to look in the mirror as a father. Using Micah 6 as a backdrop, we explore the difference between how pagan cultures tried to appease their unstable gods versus how our Heavenly Father actually relates to His children.

Then we bring it home.

Because the real question is not theological. It is practical.

Do your kids feel safe around you… or do they feel like they have to keep you happy to keep peace in the house?

I share personal childhood stories that highlight the difference between affection and appeasement, and why that distinction matters more than most dads realize.

If you want your kids to love you out of connection, not fear, this conversation will challenge you in the best way.

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