When the Body Leads: Liberation Beyond Conditioning

In this episode, Jin Hong shares grounded, practical ways to begin an embodiment journey without getting lost in theory or abstract language. We talk about what real body awareness actually looks like in everyday life.

Jin breaks down simple ways to move beyond conditioning and into self-knowing, including how to notice sensations, build trust with your felt experience, and make small daily shifts that bring clarity to desire and choice.

We also explore how somatic and tantric tools create intimacy with yourself first, and how that inner connection naturally changes your relationships and overall energy, without pushing or overwhelm.

Jin Hong is a Somatic Healing and Tantra coach. She supports people in cultivating an authentic, holistic connection with their body-mind, healing blocks to intimacy, and creating fulfilling, connected relationships.

Connect with Jin:

www.theladyjin.com

https://www.youtube.com/@coachingwithjin

https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithjin/

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https://www.somashift.org/

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Most of us were taught a version of healing that doesn’t actually help us heal. We were told to dig, analyze, process, talk it through, and push harder. Yet so many women still feel stuck, overwhelmed, disconnected from pleasure, and trapped in old patterns that won’t budge.

In this episode, I break down why:

Trauma doesn’t resolve from insight alone. Your nervous system needs real, felt moments of safety, steadiness, and goodness to rewrite what it learned in survival. We explore why “fixing yourself” keeps you looping, how chronic symptoms often come from a lifetime of carrying too much without enough support, and why pleasure, connection, and resourcing are essential, not extra.

I talk about:
• Why pain gets all the attention and keeps you stuck
• How your nervous system learns safety through experience, not effort
• Pendulation, resourcing, and why they protect you from overwhelm
• Why so many women can name emotions but can’t feel them
• How chronic fight-or-flight shuts down joy, desire, and intimacy
• Why you aren’t broken—you’re wired for survival
• What actually helps your body shift from chronic struggle to chronic thriving

This episode is for women who are tired of analyzing themselves, tired of chasing healing, and ready for a different way. One that honors the body, honors your lived experience, and reconnects you with the parts of you that have been waiting underneath it all.

If you’re craving aliveness, connection, or the sense that you’re finally coming back to yourself (or discovering yourself for the first time), this one is for you.

FOR WOMEN WHO ARE TIRED OF TRYING SO HARD:
This episode is especially for you if you’ve tried the diets, the supplements, the breathwork, the mindset tricks, the holistic treatments, and still feel stuck in the same patterns. You’re not failing. Your body is asking for something different.

WORK WITH ME:
I support women with chronic symptoms, emotional overwhelm, intimacy struggles, and long-standing patterns that never seem to shift. My work blends Somatic Experiencing® (SE™), VITA™ training, relational repair, and body-led practices that help you feel met, supported, and understood.

I offer 1:1 sessions, group programs, support circles, in-person work, and retreats. If you’re looking for a space where you don’t have to perform, hustle, or be “the strong one,” you’ll find it here.

CONNECT:
Website: https://www.somashift.org/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theangelarivero/
Upcoming programs and groups available on my site.

Shame Is the Tax Women Have Been Forced to Pay for Pleasure. I Say: Stop Paying It.

Shame isn’t just an emotion; it’s a biological response. In this episode, we explore how shame triggers the brain and body’s threat systems, activating fight, flight, or freeze states, and how it keeps women chronically dysregulated.

We’ll dive into the neuroscience and physiology of shame, its effects on pleasure, desire, menstruation, aging, body changes, and rest, and share practical tools to release it. Using felt sense awareness, sensory grounding, and Havening techniques, this episode offers a roadmap to reclaim your nervous system, your body, and your pleasure.
What You’ll Learn:
How shame activates neural pathways associated with threat and physical danger
The physiological effects: cortisol spikes, heart rate changes, and defensive brain activation
How chronic shame keeps the nervous system in fight, flight, or freeze
How shame affects pleasure, desire, body sensations, and rest
Practical strategies to regulate the nervous system and de-shame the body
Tools & Practices:
Felt sense awareness: noticing the body’s signals of safety or threat
5-sense orientation to anchor into the present
Touch, taste, smell, and sight exercises for micro-moments of pleasure
Gentle Havening touch to lower threat response
Curiosity instead of self-criticism
For Listeners Who:
Feel disconnected from their body or pleasure
Struggle with anxiety, fatigue, pain, or other chronic symptoms
Want to reclaim regulation, presence, and sensory attunement
Call to Action:
Share this episode with someone who needs it
Join a women’s circle to explore de-shaming practices
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