Folgen

  • Quiet Your Inner Critic: 5 Reminders All Adults with Immigrant Parents Need

    Quiet Your Inner Critic: 5 Reminders All Adults with Immigrant Parents Need
    Apr 29 2025
    Episode 4 - Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be WhyHow Guilt & Sacrifice Keep You Stuck: The Repay Cycle™If you're an adult with immigrant parents and feel caught between two worlds, interactions and expectations, leading you to feel a lot of guilt —you're not alone. In this episode, I break down The Repay Cycle™, a framework I created from my 10+ years working with adults with immigrant parents, and individuals with immigrant background. This is a cycle so many adults with immigrant parents, myself included, fall into without realizing it.We explore how the cycle starts, how we are so driven to repay our parents in big and small ways, and its impact on us and how we show up in our relationships. Learn what The Repay Cycle™ might looks like in your daily life and why it’s so important to recognize it. This is part one of a three-part series that will help you break the cycle and care for your family without losing yourself.Next episode we will talk more about what to do, now that you’re aware of The Repay Cycle™.Subscribe so you get the new episode sent directly to you!📥 Want the visual? Grab the free PDF of the Repay Cycle here → [Insert Link]Episode Timeline:00:00 Introduction and Overview01:13 Why The Repay Cycle™ is Important 02:43 Phase 105:42 Phase 208:17 Phase 309:54 Phase 415:17 Breaking the Cycle16:40 What to Do About The Repay Cycle™ in next episodeShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/4___Free Resources:Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
    Mehr anzeigen Weniger anzeigen
    17 Min.
  • Navigating Two Worlds with Immigrant Parents | What to Expect | Intro

    Navigating Two Worlds with Immigrant Parents | What to Expect | Intro
    Apr 29 2025
    Episode 2 - Navigating Two Worlds with Immigrant Parents | What to Expect | IntroWelcome to Empowered with Immigrant Parents Podcast!I’m so excited to introduce you to the heart behind this podcast: a place where adults with immigrant parents can feel seen, supported, and empowered.We’ll talk about what inspired this show, who it’s for, what you can expect moving forward and I’ll leave you with five powerful affirmations to carry with you as we begin this journey together.If you’ve ever felt stuck balancing your own dreams while caring for your family, this space is for you. You're not alone and you're not wrong for feeling the way you do. 🫶Episode Timeline:00:00 – Introduction: Why I created this podcast01:45 – Why This Podcast Exists: The conversations we didn't grow up having04:15 – Who This Podcast Is For: Adults with immigrant parents feeling stuck, guilty, or burnt out06:30 – What You Can Expect: Topics we'll dive into (boundaries, perfectionism, imposter syndrome & more)08:00 – About Me: My Chinese Vietnamese background and personal story10:15 – Important Disclaimer: This podcast is informational, not therapy11:00 – First Pep Talk: The Five Most Important Affirmations to Remember13:00 – Next Episode: Why These 5 Affirmations Shownotes and more at: heyallisonly.com/podcast/2---Follow Allison on Instagram: instagram.com/heyallisonlySign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self TalkGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved OnesAllison's Website: heyallisonly.comSubscribe to embark on this empowering journey together!
    Mehr anzeigen Weniger anzeigen
    17 Min.
  • Why You Might Guilty No Matter What You Do

    Why You Might Guilty No Matter What You Do
    May 6 2025
    Episode 4 - Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be WhyHow Guilt & Sacrifice Keep You Stuck: The Repay Cycle™If you're an adult with immigrant parents and feel caught between two worlds, interactions and expectations, leading you to feel a lot of guilt —you're not alone. In this episode, I break down The Repay Cycle™, a framework I created from my 10+ years working with adults with immigrant parents, and individuals with immigrant background. This is a cycle so many adults with immigrant parents, myself included, fall into without realizing it.We explore how the cycle starts, how we are so driven to repay our parents in big and small ways, and its impact on us and how we show up in our relationships. Learn what The Repay Cycle™ might looks like in your daily life and why it’s so important to recognize it. This is part one of a three-part series that will help you break the cycle and care for your family without losing yourself.Next episode we will talk more about what to do, now that you’re aware of The Repay Cycle™.Subscribe so you get the new episode sent directly to you!📥 Want the visual? Grab the recap and more of the Repay Cycle in a PDF here → heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repayEpisode Timeline: 00:00 Intro of The Repay Cycle™01:13 Why The Repay Cycle™ is Important 02:43 Phase 105:42 Phase 208:17 Phase 309:54 Phase 415:17 Breaking the Cycle16:40 What to Do About The Repay Cycle™ in next episodeShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/4___Free Resources:The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF:heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repaySign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
    Mehr anzeigen Weniger anzeigen
    18 Min.
  • Say "No" More: The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3

    Say "No" More: The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3
    May 13 2025
    Why It’s So Hard to Say "No" as Adults with Immigrant ParentsEpisode 5: Your Values or Your Family's? The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3Are you constantly giving, helping, and sacrificing—yet still feel guilty or that you're not doing enough? You’re not alone. In this episode, we go deeper into the Repay Cycle™ and explore why these emotional patterns run so deep for adults with immigrant parents.We talk about:- The impact of parentification (when you were the “responsible one” way too early)- What happens when we don’t understand why we keep saying yes- The pressure of navigating two cultures and conflicting expectations- How to identify your own values—separate from what you were told to wantPlus, I’ll walk you through a visual tool to help you figure out what you truly want vs. what your family expects from you. If you’ve ever felt torn, overwhelmed, or stuck in a loop of obligation, this is for you.📥 Want the visual? Grab the visual here → https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/values🎧 Listen now and take one step closer to clarity, confidence, and self-trust.Episode Timeline:00:00 Recap of The Repay Cycle™ (Part 1)01:14 Understanding The Repay Cycle™02:00 What’s Parentification Got to Do with It?03:37 Balancing Cultural Expectations06:52 Identifying Personal Values09:54 Resource for youShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/5____Free Resources:The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repaySign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
    Mehr anzeigen Weniger anzeigen
    11 Min.
  • Beat Burnout: How to Protect Your Energy (The Repay Cycle™ Part 3 of 3)

    Beat Burnout: How to Protect Your Energy (The Repay Cycle™ Part 3 of 3)
    May 20 2025
    Quick tools to beat burnout! How to Protect Your Energy When You’re Always the One Helping Episode 6: Exhausted from Caring Too Much? Fix Burnout with These Tips (The Repay Cycle™ Part 3 of 3)If you’re constantly helping others—especially your immigrant parents—but feel burnt out, overwhelmed, or feel like cutting ties is the only way for you to get some peace, this episode is for you. Learn to alleviate emotional fatigue, prioritize self-care, and set effective boundaries without cutting ties with your loved ones.In Part 3, the final part of The Repay Cycle™ series, Allison Ly shares simple yet powerful ways to protect your energy without giving up your values or your relationships. Learn how to make mindful choices, reduce resentment, and create space to care for yourself too. Listen as Allison shares practical steps to recognizing your values, prioritizing urgent tasks, and incorporating enjoyable activities to reduce stress.What You’ll Learn:- A practical tool to track your emotional and energy levels- How to decide what’s urgent vs. important in family requests- Ways to align your actions with your values so you feel less guilt- Small shifts that make a big difference in how you show up for yourself and others- The foundation for setting boundaries without feeling selfishResources Mentioned: 📄 Download visuals & PDFs: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast 💻 Learn about 1:1 coaching & Unshaken Confidence: https://heyallisonly.comSubscribe & Follow to stay updated with each new episode!Episode Timeline:00:00 What to do when in The Repay Cycle™01:38 Understanding Your Energy Levels05:02 Reflecting on Your Values08:07 Prioritizing and Setting Boundaries13:59 Practical Tips for Self-Care15:21 Why This is Important For YouShow notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/6____Free Resources:The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repaySign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
    Mehr anzeigen Weniger anzeigen
    16 Min.
  • What No One Tells You About Setting Boundaries

    What No One Tells You About Setting Boundaries
    May 27 2025
    What Lending a Sweater Can Teach You About BoundariesEpisode 7: The Truth About Boundaries: What No One Tells YouMany of us overlook these facts about setting boundaries - and this is detrimental to your relationships. It affects your relationship with yourself and with others. Tune in as Allison Ly dives into some myths and facts about boundaries so that you can shift your mindset about boundaries, and start to use them more effectively and with less guilt. Listen in on why boundaries are not one-size-fits-all and why they don’t need to be rigid to be effective. Especially as adults with immigrant parents, boundary-setting can bring up discomfort, fear of being misunderstood, and the pressure to keep the peace. But here's the truth: boundaries are necessary, and they change all the time - making this a lifelong skill you’ll always improve upon.You’ll hear how boundaries show up in everyday moments - yes, even in lending out a sweater!. And what lessons lending a sweater can teach us about how to think about boundaries. If you haven’t been able to set boundaries or even think about HOW to set boundaries because you’re feeling stuck between your needs and your family’s expectations, this episode will help you shift your mindset, get curious (not judgmental), and start practicing boundaries with more confidence, compassion, and clarity.🎧 Tune in to learn:- What a boundary really is (it’s more than just saying no)- How to communicate them when you’re not used to doing it- Why discomfort isn’t a sign to stop—it’s necessary- The role boundaries play in protecting your energy, peace, and relationshipsAnd if you’re wanting more support on this so that you can start to enjoy more of your relationships with less overthinking and less guilt, check out ways to work with me:- Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/ - Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love. https://www.heyallisonly.com/course Episode Timeline:00:00 Why talk about Boundaries00:59 Defining Boundaries03:30 Misconceptions About Boundaries04:20 Why It’s So Complicated06:40 Adapting Boundaries Over Time07:04 Examples of How to Set Boundaries12:06 The Most Important Piece15:05 What Now?Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/7____Free Resources:Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/startGet my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
    Mehr anzeigen Weniger anzeigen
    16 Min.
  • It's Not Your Fault: Why Adults with Immigrant Parents Struggle to Take Up Space

    It's Not Your Fault: Why Adults with Immigrant Parents Struggle to Take Up Space
    Jun 3 2025
    Episode 08: Why Adults with Immigrant Parents Struggle to Take Up Space Ever find it hard to take up space — to speak up, ask for what you need, or even just exist fully in a room? You’re not alone. In this episode, Allison Ly breaks down why it can feel especially challenging for adults with immigrant parents to take up space, whether that’s emotionally, mentally, or physically.Allison walks through some of the biggest reasons adults with immigrant parents, like you, face that complicate self-expression, and the impact of not seeing yourself represented growing up. She also shares how survival mode can keep you from even thinking about taking up more space — and why none of this is your fault.Get a powerful reflection prompt to help you notice what’s getting in the way of you taking up space.Tune in to understand these complexities and learn how to begin advocating for yourself.If you’re wanting more support on this, work with me:Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/ Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence, a program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love. https://www.heyallisonly.com/course Episode Timeline:00:00 Do You Take Up Space?00:14 Why It's Hard for Adults with Immigrant Parents to Take Up Space01:47 Cultural and Language Barriers04:44 Media Representation and Its Impact07:01 External Factors Impacting Ability to Take Up Space10:21 Question for You Get the visual mentioned and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/8____Sign up to get actionable tips, tools, relatable stories for Adults with Immigrant Parents, in my free email community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk (Free Training): https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start
    Mehr anzeigen Weniger anzeigen
    12 Min.
  • 3 Ways to Feel Less Guilt (and Take Up Space)

    3 Ways to Feel Less Guilt (and Take Up Space)
    Jun 10 2025
    Episode 09: 3 Ways to Take Up Space Without Guilt: 3 Thoughts to ChallengeIn Part 2 of our conversation about taking up space, we’re diving into the real thoughts that hold adults with immigrant parents back — and how to challenge them so you can live more fully and authentically.If you've ever found yourself thinking:- “I should be grateful and not ask for more.”- “I'm asking for too much.”- “What will people think if I speak up?”...then this episode is for you.We’ll break down how you can start taking up space in small ways that will feel good to you — without guilt, fear, or overwhelm. In this episode, you’ll learn:- Why gratitude and ambition can coexist- How to reframe "asking for too much"- Why you don’t have to guess what others are thinking- Practical ways to practice taking up space — starting small- How knowing your values helps you advocate for yourselfTaking up space isn’t about abandoning your family or your culture — it’s about showing up for you and caring for others without losing yourself.If you’re ready to stop feeling burnt out and start living more aligned with who you truly are, listen in. 💛Episodes Mentioned:Part 1 of 3. The Repay Cycle™ in Immigrant Families. Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be Whyhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYxHiBoa3xUPart 1 of 2 on Taking Up Space. It’s Not Your Fault: Why It’s Hard for Adults with Immigrant Parents to Take Up Spacehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66uqkLMYHYw If you’re wanting more support on this, work with me:- Let’s do some 1:1 coaching: https://unshakengen.thrivecart.com/1coaching/ - Get on the waitlist for Unshaken Confidence: https://www.heyallisonly.com/course A program designed to help adults with immigrant parents live more of their lives in the way they want, WHILE also caring for those they love.
    Mehr anzeigen Weniger anzeigen
    23 Min.