In this episode, Renae welcomes back Béa Victoria Albina, author of the new book End Emotional Outsourcing. Béa shares how emotional outsourcing goes way beyond simple “people pleasing”—it’s a nervous system survival skill that gets wired into us early on. Together, they dig into what emotional outsourcing really means, how it shows up in relationships, and why self-trust and somatic healing are key to breaking the cycle.

The conversation covers everything from rumination loops and burnout to consumerism and why shopping won’t fix what’s going on inside. Béa explains why change is possible at any age (yes, even 78!), why it’s not “narcissistic” to want to be seen, and how being direct with others is actually an act of love. If you’ve ever felt stuck in people pleasing, overgiving, or just tired of constantly proving your worth, this episode will shift the way you see yourself.

Chapters

00:00
Introduction and Book Announcement

01:11
Understanding Emotional Outsourcing

03:15
Personal Journey and Codependency

04:55
Nature vs. Nurture in Emotional Patterns

06:39
Living Authentically and Self-Trust

11:11
Curiosity and Self-Discovery

16:19
Frameworks for Change

18:12
Hope for Change at Any Age

22:21
Being Less of an Asshole

24:59
Navigating Childhood Trauma and Its Lasting Impact

27:04
Understanding the Nervous System and Thought Patterns

34:31
Burnout: Causes, Prevention, and Recovery Strategies

40:58
Consumerism, Happiness, and Intentional Living

43:07
Setting Boundaries: The Balance of Kindness and Self-Respect

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In this episode, Renae sits down with her husband David to talk about what happens when you and your partner want totally different things out of a weekend. One of you thrives on staying busy, the other is perfectly content lounging at home—and both of you end up a little resentful.

They share how they’ve (imperfectly) navigated these differences, from carving out “me-time” to begrudgingly watching family movie nights, and why compromise, communication, and acceptance matter more than chasing some Instagram-perfect idea of marriage.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t they just do things my way?”—this one’s for you.

00:00
Navigating Different Energies in Relationships

03:01
Understanding Ideal Days and Personal Needs

05:47
The Push-Pull of Compromise

08:45
Communication and Acceptance in Relationships

11:49
The Reality of Resentment and Expectations

14:35
Comparing Relationships and Finding Balance

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What happens when motherhood doesn’t check every single box? When you love your kid like crazy and still want more for yourself?

In this episode, I get into the messy, complicated truth about feeling unfulfilled in motherhood. The guilt, the judgment, the “shouldn’t this be enough?” soundtrack we all pick up from family, media, and society. I talk about why I don’t believe one role, even motherhood, can (or should) be your whole identity, and why wanting more doesn’t mean you love your child any less.

Motherhood is amazing, hilarious, exhausting—and it doesn’t have to be the only thing that defines you.

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– Grab her book → Eat, Drink, Think