Episode 5: Date Yourself

Today I want to talk about the beauty of dating oneself. You know, the taking yourself on dates, excursions, trips, classes, etc. because you’ve learned to value and enjoy your own company. Today’s episode is not only for single women, you can date yourself even if you are in a relationship. You SHOULD date yourself even if you are in a relationship! I believe it to be a valuable experience no matter your age or relationship status. Let’s discuss the why, how, when, and where and get into it!

• Why should we date ourselves? I believe we should date ourselves for several reasons. One reason is because it helps us to sit in our own thoughts and embrace our own unbiased opinions and decisions, not those bounced off another. I believe it builds confidence as you learn to navigate places and situations on your own. It takes confidence to sit alone in a restaurant, to travel alone locally, or even to another country I also believe it helps reinforce our own value. That our own company can be enough.

• Let’s move on to the how. How do we date ourselves? What does that look like? I can use some of my own examples, and examples I have seen other friends do. Going out to eat is very pleasurable with those you love, but it can also be enjoyable alone. If there is someone I am dying to visit and I just can’t get it work with others, or I just want to go alone, I can and do! I can sit in that restaurant at a table or the bar, and eat and drink what I want. I can eat at my own pace and take in the surroundings.

• Next up is the when of dating yourself. That’s an easy one! My answer to this is anytime it fits your schedule! Maybe you are dying to try a new restaurant but your significant other is out of town, or maybe just doesn’t have the same interest in the place. There’s a great time to go and venture out on your own.

• Last up, is the where of dating yourself. That is truly wide open, just like dating another person. The world is your oyster. Some of the places I have dated myself have included restaurants, bars, movie theaters, hiking and biking trails, gardens, museums, shops, wine tastings, markets, and even travel.
• So, I would encourage you to date yourself any chance you get. It can benefit you in so many ways, it can take you to new places maybe you wouldn’t otherwise go because you know others aren't interested. If all of this seems a bit scary, take it slowly and start small. It might just be going to the library, bookstore, or coffee shop alone. Then, build up the confidence and you will find yourself ready to date yourself in bigger ways, like a solo trip to Italy!

• I hope this chat today resonates with you in some way and will encourage you to take the first step, or if you’ve already been on the journey, maybe it just gives you a smile of understanding.

I hope you enjoyed our conversation over wine today. I know I did.

Closing Toast

Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given.If you are enjoying this podcast, please remember to follow, subscribe, and like the videos. I would appreciate all your support as I am getting my podcast on its feet! I also want to share that I now have a YouTube Channel, so please take a moment to follow me on YouTube. You’ll find me under “Conversations Over Wine”. Until next time friends, cheers.