Too Much to Ask?

When you're a dad of a child with a disability, asking for support at work can feel like walking a tightrope.

In this episode, I share a personal story and perspectives about disclosing my family's needs in the workplace and how one employer said all the right things… until it got inconvenient.

We’ll talk about:

The silent stigma dads face in the workplace

What happens when “supportive” is just surface-level

The emotional cost of hiding what's really going on

The very real legal protections you have as a carer under Australian law

And practical advice for other dads navigating work, disclosure, and advocacy

This one is for the dads quietly carrying the load, and wondering if telling the truth will cost them their job.

Ever find yourself reacting before you even realise what you’re reacting to?

In this episode, I unpack a moment where I defaulted back into an old emotional thinking pattern taking things personally, called personalisation. It’s a cognitive distortion that creates reactions like snapping when I didn’t need to, and realising too late that it wasn’t about my wife… it was about me.

I talk about how these loops form, why they hit hardest at home, and how even after years of therapy and CBT, the old stuff can sneak back in when we’re tired, overwhelmed, or stretched too thin.

This is for any dad of a child of disability, partner, or human who’s ever thought: “I should’ve known better.”

You’re not alone. You’re just in the loop. Let’s find our way out, together.

After a long hiatus, I’m back.

Recorded in the car. No mic, no script, no polish. Just me, reflecting on the last 48 hours with Leo and the massive progress I didn’t know we’d made.

In this episode I reflect on two surprising experiences with my son Leo that reminded me just how far he’s come. From a night out at Sydney Zoo’s Glow event to a doctor’s appointment I was dreading, both moments showed me what real, hard-won progress looks like and how easy it is to miss it in the day-to-day.It made me realise: growth isn’t always visible until you try the hard thing again.

If you’re a parent in the thick of it, wondering if anything’s changing... it probably is. You just might not see it, yet.