Welcome back to Part 2 of our deep dive into values! If you haven't listened to "Values Episode Part 1," hit pause now and go back to learn how to establish your own core values – it's crucial for setting yourself up for success in your everyday leadership journey. In this episode, Janessa Storlie builds upon that foundation, exploring how to effectively communicate your core values with others.

Janessa emphasizes that while understanding your values empowers you to step into true authenticity, communicating them isn't always as simple as just stating them. She reveals that effective communication often comes down to embodying your values through self-advocacy and setting healthy, assertive boundaries. Janessa shares personal insights on the challenges of setting boundaries, especially for people-pleasers, and offers reminders that you can only control your own actions and reactions.

You'll discover how knowing your values can act as a "values decision-making framework," helping you analyze opportunities and make choices that align with what's most important to you. Janessa provides a powerful example of how her value of "growth" helped her navigate a challenging board situation. She also clarifies the distinction between assertiveness and aggression, advocating for assertive self-advocacy as a respectful way to thrive in empowering environments.

Finally, Janessa discusses how understanding your values can transform conflict management and relationship building within teams. By presenting concerns from a place of values, you can navigate difficult conversations in a more positive and constructive way, fostering trust and psychological safety.

Key Takeaways from this episode:

• Communication starts with embodiment. Effectively communicating your values means embodying them through self-advocacy and setting healthy boundaries.
• You control your actions, not others' reactions. It can be difficult when people react negatively to boundaries, but focus on what you can control.
• Values guide decision-making. Use your values as a framework to say "yes" to what aligns and "no" to what doesn't, saving valuable time and energy.
• Assertiveness is key. Understand that assertiveness is respectful self-advocacy, distinct from aggression, and empowers you to thrive.
• Values transform conflict. Frame difficult conversations from a values perspective to bridge gaps, build trust, and foster stronger relationships within teams.
• Conflict can lead to growth. Appreciate conflict as an opportunity to understand different perspectives and build solutions together.

Resources Mentioned:

• "Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins: A great resource for releasing control over others' reactions.https://www.melrobbins.com/book/the-let-them-theory/
• Research Paper on Assertiveness: Dive deeper into the psychological studies and origins of assertiveness: https://psyct.swu.bg/index.php/psyct/article/view/14/html
• Books on Conflict Management: Essential tools for navigating disagreements in a constructive way: https://www.tablegroup.com/topics-and-resources/teamwork-5-dysfunctions/

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Remember to save and revisit these episodes to truly understand and embody your core values. This is a key piece of becoming an everyday leader and thriving in your work!