In Part 1 of our conversation with Jutka Freiman (Ep 66) , we explored yin and yang energy, soul maintenance, and what it means to slow down without panic. In Part 2, we go deeper—into the Enneagram, one of the most powerful tools for self-understanding you'll ever encounter.

Crystal and renowned therapist Jutka Freiman break down the Enneagram not as a personality quiz, but as a map of your unconscious patterns—the strategies you developed early in life to feel safe, loved, or in control. And here's the thing: Those strategies worked when you were seven. They might be running your life now.

Jutka explains why the Enneagram shows you how to move from compulsion (from I have to, I must, I can't help it) to choice (I'm aware of the underlying pattern, and I'm choosing something different).

This conversation will help you see yourself more clearly than you ever have before. And once you see the pattern, you can't unsee it. That's when real transformation becomes possible.

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The Nine Enneagram Types (Overview)

• Type 1 – The Perfectionist: Fear of being wrong or bad; driven by the need to be good and right
• Type 2 – The Helper / Giver: Fear of being unloved or unwanted; driven by the need to be needed
• Type 3 – The Achiever: Fear of being worthless; driven by the need to succeed and be admired
• Type 4 – The Individualist: Fear of being ordinary or without identity; driven by the need to be unique and authentic
• Type 5 – The Observer / Investigator: Fear of being incompetent or overwhelmed; driven by the need to understand and conserve energy
• Type 6 – The Loyal Skeptic: Fear of being without support; driven by the need for security and guidance
• Type 7 – The Enthusiast: Fear of being trapped in pain; driven by the need for freedom and stimulation
• Type 8 – The Challenger / Protector: Fear of being controlled or vulnerable; driven by the need for autonomy and strength
• Type 9 – The Peacemaker: Fear of conflict and disconnection; driven by the need for inner and outer peace

Compulsion vs. Choice: The Heart of the Work

• Compulsion: "I have to, I must, I can't help it" (autopilot, driven, no agency)
• Choice: "I see the pattern, and I'm choosing something different" (awareness, agency, freedom)

How to Use the Enneagram for Growth

• Step 1: Identify your type (and be honest—it's the one that makes you uncomfortable)
• Step 2: Notice your pattern in real-time ("Oh, there I go again...")
• Step 3: Name the compulsion ("I'm feeling the need to fix/control/prove/escape...")
• Step 4: Choose wisely ("What would it look like to not do the thing I always do?")
• The Enneagram doesn't change your type—it gives you freedom within your type Common Misconceptions About the Enneagram
• It's not about putting yourself in a box—it's about seeing the box you're already in
• Your type doesn't limit you—it shows you where you're already limited
• You don't "become" another type—you integrate the healthy parts of other types
• The goal isn't to transcend your type—it's to be the healthiest version of your type

How to Find Your Type (If You're Not Sure)

• Read descriptions and notice which one makes you defensive (that's probably it)
• Ask: Which core fear feels the most uncomfortable to admit?
• Pay attention to what you do under stress—that's often the tell
• Work with a qualified Enneagram coach or therapist (don't self-type based on internet quizzes alone)

What happens when the women who "have it all" realise that somewhere along they way, they’ve won but also lost themselves?

In this deeply nourishing conversation, Crystal sits down with Jutka Freiman, a renowned therapist based in Sydney, Australia, who's spent decades helping high-achieving women rediscover what's been missing: their yin energy, their capacity for rest, and their ability to simply be instead of endlessly do.

Jutka challenges everything we've been taught about success, productivity, and feminine power. She explains why the most accomplished women are often the most disconnected from their souls, why slowing down triggers panic (and what that panic is really about), and how to shift from hunting energy to attracting energy without sacrificing your ambition or effectiveness.

This episode is about soul maintenance;- learning to feed the part of you that gets depleted when life becomes nothing but achievement, execution, and performance.

This episode is for you if:

• You're successful by every external measure but feel spiritually depleted
• You struggle to slow down without feeling guilty, anxious, or "behind"
• You've been told you're "too masculine" in how you approach work and life
• You're curious about what it means to reclaim your feminine energy (without the woo-woo)
• You want to understand how to maintain your soul the way you maintain your body, career, or finances

For more information about Jutka’s work, visit her website http://www.jutkafreiman.com.au/

What does it mean to truly serve a community? In this powerful conversation, Crystal sits down with Dr. Hamid Razak, Member of Parliament and passionate advocate for migrant workers' rights, mental health, and creating a more joyful Singapore.

Dr. Hamid shares why he's dedicated his political career to championing those often invisible in our society;- the migrant workers who build our homes, care for our loved ones, and keep our city running. He opens up about what the COVID-19 pandemic was like for him as a doctor, his experience with migrant workers and their mental health struggles, the philosophy behind creating a "happy and joyful Singapore," and what it really takes to serve with authenticity and heart.

Whether you're navigating your own career in public service, searching for more meaningful work, or simply wondering how to contribute to your community, this conversation will remind you that impact isn't about grand gestures, but rather it’s about seeing people, listening deeply, and showing up with humility.

Dr. Hamid Razak is a Member of Parliament representing Jurong Spring division in West Coast-Jurong West Group Representation Constituency. A passionate advocate for social justice, he has dedicated his political career to championing the rights of migrant workers, advancing mental health awareness, and building stronger, more compassionate communities.

Known for his empathetic leadership style and hands-on approach to community service, Dr. Hamid has been a vocal voice in Parliament on issues often overlooked, from improving living conditions for foreign workers to destigmatising mental health challenges. His vision of a "happy and joyful Singapore" goes beyond economic metrics to embrace the human dimensions of wellbeing, belonging, and dignity.