“I don’t need a man, I just want one.”
It sounds empowering… but what if it’s actually another layer of protection?

In this episode, love & intimacy mentor Shilpa Cacho unpacks the cultural mantra of not needing a man and shares why, as a healed, self-loving woman, it’s actually safe to say:
“I do need a good man, not to complete me, but to expand me.”

Through her own story of divorce, healing, and remarrying, plus honest reflections about her current marriage, Shilpa explores:

• The hidden fear and self-protection behind “I don’t need a man”
• The difference between needing a man from wounding and desperation vs needing a man from wholeness and desire
• How a healthy, masculine partner deepens your softness, joy, safety, and freedom
• Why feminine women feel different (and more themselves) when they’re with a truly protective, present man
• The impact of provision, emotional leadership, and masculine protection on your nervous system
• How old stories from your past (and even your first marriage) can make nurturing, domestic roles feel like obligation instead of devotion
• Real-life examples, including Shilpa’s sister who married in her 40s and softened into a happier, more feminine version of herself

This episode is a loving permission slip to admit you do want — and yes, in many ways need — a man who is your partner, protector, and soulmate… not because you’re incomplete, but because you were never meant to do life alone.

If you’re ready to call in your own Soul Husband and learn how to soften without losing yourself, this conversation will challenge your beliefs, melt your defenses, and open your heart to a new way of seeing love.

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Dating in your 30s as a high-achieving woman doesn’t have to be a cycle of bad first dates, ghosting, and “men are trash” group chats. In this episode, love & intimacy mentor Shilpa Cacho breaks down why dating apps aren’t the real problem, how achievement has conditioned you to treat dating like a performance review, and what actually shifts when you regulate your nervous system and step into your feminine energy.

You’ll learn how to:

• Stop blaming dating apps and start owning your patterns in love
• Date with intention in your 30s without slipping into control, overthinking, or pedestal-ing men
• Attract emotionally available, masculine men while staying powerful and soft
• Tell the difference between high standards and protection mechanisms
• Date multiple men, pace intimacy, and spot red/green flags with clarity
• Hold space for a man’s emotions instead of shutting down or trying to fix him

Shilpa also shares her story of going from divorce to meeting and marrying her husband within 19 months, and how nervous system work, feminine communication, and identity upgrades helped her create a marriage that lasts.

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Love & Feminine Embodiment Mentor Shilpa Cacho breaks down one of the most misunderstood concepts in modern dating:

“Do I actually know what love feels like… or have I only experienced trauma bonding?”

Shilpa shares a raw, personal story about a past relationship she once labeled “soul-deep love” and how she later realized it was pure trauma bonding fueled by chaos, shame, childhood wounds, and nervous system addiction.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• What trauma bonding actually is (beyond toxicity or dramatic fights)
• Why your body may confuse survival with connection
• How chaotic relationships activate your nervous system… and feel like chemistry
• Why you crave inconsistent men who pull away
• Why “nice,” consistent men feel “boring” or “no spark”
• How trauma bonding shows up in high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women
• The subtle ways women manipulate, chase, or abandon themselves for love
• What real, healthy love actually feels like in your body
• How to know if your attraction is trauma or truth
• What healing looks like (nervous system regulation, self-worth, feminine communication)

This episode is for you if:

• you’ve repeated painful patterns in dating
• you’ve loved men who couldn’t choose you
• you’re confused between chemistry and connection
• you’re healing after divorce or heartbreak
• you want marriage, family, and real emotional safety
• you want to understand why you’re attracted to the wrong men

If you realized you've never truly experienced healthy love, it is NOT too late.
Your patterns can be healed.
Your nervous system can shift.
You can attract a man who loves you with devotion, consistency, and clarity.

Work with Shilpa:
✨ Spicy Queen Academy — heal your heart, regulate your nervous system, rebuild self-worth, and end old patterns for good.
💍 Attract Your SoulHusband — for the woman ready for her forever love

Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho
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Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12