Most leaders think they’re holding it all together under duress. But often what they’re really doing is gripping the steering wheel of a car that’s already crashed.

Control feels powerful, but it’s actually a symptom of fear. When fear runs the show, we end up managing people instead of leading them, and circumstances instead of ourselves. We seek approval and safety in all the wrong places, forgetting that real leadership begins inside us.

In this episode, Dex unpacks why our craving for control is so strong, how it quietly fuels burnout, and what leadership looks like when we stop trying to control the wrong thing.

You’ll learn:

• Why fear and control always travel together
• How perfectionism, micromanagement, and the need to be right drain your energy
• The hidden costs: lost trust, disengagement, quiet quitting, and team dysfunction
• What true control really is — agency over your inner state
• How to lead through curiosity, psychological safety, warmth, and mentoring

Dex shares stories from his early leadership days, lessons learned from high-achieving professionals, and practical ways to reclaim your energy and influence without resorting to control.

If you’ve been exhausted from trying to hold everything together, this episode will help you reclaim your power and start leading in a way that actually works — for you, your team, and your career.

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In this episode, Finding New Hope, Dex explores how professionals can rediscover hope and purpose after burnout. Drawing inspiration from Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, Dex shows how meaning and purpose are not luxuries—they’re essential for resilience, recovery, and fulfillment.

He examines why burnout so often erodes hope, how chronic stress distorts our perception of self-worth, and what it takes to reclaim your power and confidence when you’ve run dry. Through visualization, reflection, and self-compassion, Dex invites you to reconnect with your authentic, capable self—the one who still believes in your own future.

This episode is an antidote to despair, and a call to rise—stronger, wiser, and more human than before.

Key Takeaways

• Hope is a choice and a practice. As Viktor Frankl wrote, “Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.”
• Meaning and purpose are survival tools, not nice-to-haves. They keep us connected, resilient, and capable of thriving even in hard times.
• Burnout breeds despair, not because you’re broken—but because you’ve been running on empty.
• You can reawaken your inner leader. Visualize your future self: grounded, calm, confident, and capable.
• Self-compassion is not indulgence—it’s medicine. Hope returns when you take the rod off your own back.
• The transformation begins when you decide to believe in yourself again.
  
  Refs:
  Man's Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl

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In this episode, I sit down with Urs Koenig—leadership expert, bestselling author of Radical Humility, UN peacekeeper, ultra-endurance champion, and professor—to talk about what it really takes to lead well in 2025 and beyond.

We dive into:

• Why humility is the ultimate performance multiplier for leaders
• The five key shifts from Urs’ book that transform “command-and-control” into resilient, high-performing teams
• Real-world stories from the military, medicine, and business that prove tough results and deep care are not opposites—they’re partners
• Practical tools you can apply right away: asking for feedback, setting crystal-clear decision boundaries, and building trust through vulnerability

If you’ve ever wrestled with how to hold high standards without burning people out—or wondered whether empathy “gets in the way” of results—this conversation will change how you see leadership.

Resources:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CRW3NTYT Radical Humility book
https://www.linkedin.com/in/urs-koenig-ab3828/
https://www.urskoenig.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n7aVe0tv5Sc How to pronounce Urs!

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