If you’re tired of the same arguments, the same tone, the same shutdown… you’re not alone.In this episode of Broken for Better, Kurt & Denette Schaer share the simple communication reset that helps couples stop reacting fast, create emotional safety, and build new rhythms that turn chaos into calm.You’ll learn:✅ Why conflict keeps repeating✅ The “I’m overwhelmed” phrase that changes everything✅ How to create safe space (even when you disagree)✅ Why scheduled repair time protects your marriage💬 Comment: When you feel overwhelmed, do you shut down, blow up, or go sarcastic?💛 Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coachingTimestamps: 00:00 - Recognizing the chaos cycle in marriage02:00 - Symptoms of a chaotic vs. peaceful home04:00 - Breaking the crazy cycle06:00 - The importance of intentional planning to prevent erosion08:00 - How reactive rhythms perpetuate chaos10:00 - The role of response vs. reaction in conflict resolution12:00 - Practical daily check-ins to strengthen connection15:00 - Creating emotional safety through volume and tone17:00 - Rest as a vital rhythm for marriage health20:00 - Protecting your marriage calendar and boundaries22:00 - Expressing expectations to prevent resentment25:00 - Tools for safe communication: hold the heart, pause phrases27:00 - The importance of safety over volume in effective communication📍All the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

In this conversation, Kurt and Denette discuss the importance of not carrying past wounds into new seasons of life, particularly in relationships. They explore how unresolved issues can linger and affect emotional intimacy, emphasizing the need for open communication and intentional healing. The discussion highlights practical tools for addressing pain points, the significance of scheduled repair time, and the understanding that conflict can lead to growth in relationships.Takeaways:New years don't fix old wounds; new rhythms do.Unresolved issues often stem from buried emotions.Communication is essential for healing in relationships.Sarcasm can be a harmful way to deflect pain.Scheduled repair time is crucial for addressing issues.Intentionality in relationships leads to better outcomes.It's important to express what hurt and what is needed.Conflict can be a pathway to deeper connection.Healing requires planning and effort.We can love deeply and still need to work on our relationship.Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coaching00:00Navigating Past Wounds05:11Understanding Unresolved Issues11:15The Importance of Communication16:45Intentional Healing in Relationships22:26Embracing Conflict for GrowthAll the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Can a marriage really change… or do couples just learn to cope?In this episode, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette unpack what real change looks like over time and why it’s usually not one big moment, but small, consistent choices made with humility and intentionality.

You’ll hear practical tools you can start using right away especially if you feel stuck in the same arguments, discouraged by slow progress, or unsure where to begin. We also talk about why celebrating “small wins” matters more than you think, and how a growth mindset can rebuild hope in your relationship.

Drop a comment: What’s one small change you’re willing to try this week?

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In this episode, Kurt and Denette Schaer discusses the power of marriage coaching, sharing personal experiences and insights into how coaching can help couples navigate various stages of their relationship. From addressing fears and misconceptions about coaching to exploring the benefits of having a supportive guide, Kurt and Denette chat about the importance of investing in relationships before reaching a crisis point. The conversation also touches on the challenges of vulnerability, the role of coaches in empowering couples, and the journey towards achieving a thriving partnership.

Takeaways:

Coaching can help individuals and couples navigate their relationships more effectively.

Fear of the unknown often prevents people from seeking coaching or counseling.

Many people feel they should know how to manage relationships without help, which is unrealistic.

Asking for help in relationships is often seen as a sign of weakness, but it's actually a strength.

Coaching provides tools and strategies to improve communication and emotional intimacy.

It's important to find a coach who resonates with you and your situation.Investing in relationships early can prevent crises later on.

The coaching process involves understanding individual struggles and providing actionable tools.

Vulnerability in coaching can lead to significant breakthroughs in relationships.

Everyone, regardless of their relationship status, can benefit from coaching.

Chapters:

00:00 Reconnecting and Reflecting on the Journey

01:29 Understanding Coaching: The Need and the Fear

11:16 Who Needs Coaching? Everyone!

18:45 The Coaching Process: What to Expect

27:42 Investing in Relationships: The Long-Term Benefits

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Join Kurt and Denette as they share their deeply personal journey through infidelity, broken trust, emotional healing and what it looked like to get there. Discover how they navigated one the darkest chapters of their marriage before child loss, to find hope and redemption. This candid conversation offers insights and tools for couples facing similar challenges.

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Timestamps:

Infidelity and Broken Trust: 00:44

Discussing Hard Subjects: 02:39

Hope and Clarity: 04:15

Emotional Healing and Connection: 20:18

Shame and Guilt: 22:56

Unspoken Tensions: 28:24

On the Other Side: 36:47

Building Trust: 54:10

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What really lights him up in marriage—and what shuts him down completely? In this eye-opening episode of the Broken for Better Podcast, we’re diving into the emotional, physical, and psychological turn-ons and turn-offs that women experience within marriage. From communication and presence to hygiene and affection, we’re getting real about what creates connection—and what kills it. Whether you're newlyweds or seasoned spouses, this conversation will help you better understand the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways intimacy is built—or broken. Tune in for honest insights, relatable stories, and a few surprises along the way.

What really lights her up in marriage—and what shuts her down completely? In this eye-opening episode on the Broken for Better Podcast, we’re diving into the emotional, physical, and psychological turn-ons and turn-offs that women experience within marriage. From communication and presence to playfulness and affection, we’re getting real about what creates connection—and what kills it. Whether you're newlyweds or seasoned spouses, this conversation will help you better understand the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways intimacy is built—or broken. Tune in for honest insights, relatable stories, and a few surprises along the way.

In this episode, we’re going beyond the hashtag and digging into what real relationship goals actually look like... the kind you can’t capture in a cute photo or a viral post. We talk about the deep work of building a relationship rooted in patience, respect, trust, and true friendship. If you're tired of the highlight reel and ready for the real thing, this one's for you.