Wicka wicka wicka... stop it. On this Beyond Monogamy quickie, Adam and Pris give your hands the attention they deserve. Fingers, palms, and knuckles may be the most underrated tools in the bedroom, and the most misused, because a whole lot of people learned their moves from porn. The swinger podcast for ethical non-monogamy covers what's going wrong, how to do it right, and the hygiene nobody wants to talk about but everybody needs to hear.

In this quickie:

• Retiring "the DJ" and the jackhammer myth: faster and harder isn't better
• Why so many women never say "I don't like that," and why you should
• Nerve endings live on the outside: read the body, not the porn script
• Pris on pH balance, sensitivity, and why unwashed hands ruin the mood
• Ladies, the shaft is not a stress ball: Adam's case for a gentle touch
• Lube is your friend, for everybody
• Anal play, fisting, and the curiosity that comes with both
• Hygiene 101: wash for 20 seconds, clean under your nails, no back-to-front cross contamination, and gloves are sexy
• Long nails, cuts, hangnails... and the bacon-wrapped jalapeño honeymoon horror story

The takeaway: speak up, guide your partner, and wash your hands, you dirty bastards.

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He does whatever he wants, and she stays loyal. That's "one-way monogamy," the setup some manosphere influencers are bragging about, and this Halloween episode of Beyond Monogamy, the swinger podcast for ethical non-monogamy, rips the mask off it. Adam and Pris dig into Louis Theroux's Netflix documentary Inside the Manosphere, the Ohio pastor who introduced a "second wife" from the pulpit, and why none of it is ENM.

In this episode:

• One-way monogamy in the manosphere, and the women's faces that said everything
• Trad wives, religion, and how "obedience" gets passed down
• The viral co-pastor announcement, "if they want another husband, they don't want me," and the serious allegations that followed (denied by the couple)
• Polygamy vs. polyamory: not the same thing, not even the same realm
• Power, age gaps, and consent when your pastor calls himself a prophet, from a former seminarian
• The "one penis policy" and the insecurity behind it
• Double standards: why people assume the woman got talked into the swinger lifestyle
• Do women really run the lifestyle? Unicorns, single men, and bulls
• Pris's message to women: your partner is not your owner. Use your voice.

Bottom line: whether it comes from a podcast mic or a pulpit, if the freedom only runs one way, it isn't non-monogamy. It's control with a new label.

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COME SEE US

• Swinger 101 Workshop at Forbidden Fruit, November 15: Real talk on communication, saying no, and doing the lifestyle the ethical way. Come hang with us!
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Is there such a thing as a "normal" sex drive? Nope. On this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about mismatched sex drives: the high, the low, and everything in between. Adam, the self-proclaimed every-single-day guy, opens up about a recent slowdown in his libido, while Pris, a lifelong take-it-or-leave-it, explains why talking about sex doesn't flip her switch and why cuddles sometimes beat the main event.

Whether you're in the swinger lifestyle, practicing ethical non-monogamy (ENM), or totally monogamous, libido mismatch isn't a lifestyle problem. It's a human one. And this swinger podcast proves the fix starts with one honest conversation.

In this episode:

• Why there's no "normal" number when it comes to sex drive
• How new medications, menopause, and hormones can shift desire
• Stress, sleep, weight, and body image as libido killers
• Why cuddling can feel safer than sex when life gets heavy
• Masturbation for dopamine vs. sex with a partner: the "whole dance"
• The fear of a low-libido season becoming the new normal
• "If one is down, pick up the other": who initiates when desire dips
• Adam's on-air accountability pledge (comment and ask if he got up and walked!)
• When to talk to your partner, your doctor, or a therapist

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