SEASON 3, EPISODE 10

Welcome to Backstage with Randy Phillips - a lighthearted dialogue meant to inspire every heart and home to live a life of purpose.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

In this powerful Backstage with Randy Phillips season finale, bestselling author, podcaster, and former divorce attorney Toni Nieuwhof shares her journey from toxic shame to true healing—and how even the most impressive résumé can hide deep emotional pain.

With honesty, humor, and faith, Tony opens up about:

• Her marriage struggles with Carey Nieuwhof

• The lie of performance-based identity

• How shame shaped her parenting and faith

• Practical steps to heal through counseling, EMDR, and spiritual practices

• A beautiful breath prayer that’s helped her experience God’s love daily

Whether you’re battling feelings of worthlessness, overachieving to feel accepted, or questioning your value, this conversation will bring freedom, clarity, and hope.

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Welcome to the Season Finale

00:28 – Meet Tony Newhoff: Lawyer, Pastor’s Wife, Believer

01:55 – The Unusual Call to Divorce Law

03:12 – The Story Behind “Before You Split”

04:24 – A Marriage Restored After Nearly Giving Up

06:00 – Should Every Marriage Be Saved?

07:29 – How the Church Can Support Women Better

09:02 – Helping People Love Being Home

10:24 – The Home Environment and Family Climate

11:09 – Why Counseling Belongs in the Church

12:46 – Bringing Christ’s Light into Therapy

14:06 – The Resume That Masked Deep Shame

15:14 – The Hidden Pain of Childhood Abuse

16:45 – From Self-Sufficiency to Healing

18:07 – How Shame Shaped Her Parenting

20:00 – When Independence Feels Like Isolation

21:38 – Hope for Women Battling Shame

23:10 – Tools That Helped Tony Heal

24:02 – Shame, Genesis, and the Voice of the Enemy

25:34 – Shame Revealed Slowly Over Time

27:10 – Timeline of Healing and God’s Faithfulness

28:04 – Meditative Prayer Practice on God’s Love

29:03 – Breath Prayer: “Be Loved / Beloved”

30:09 – Why This Practice Has Changed Her Life

30:48 – Closing Words and Blessing

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SEASON 3, EPISODE 9
Welcome to Backstage with Randy Phillips - a lighthearted dialogue meant to inspire every heart and home to live a life of purpose.

In this episode, Randy sits down with Anthony Evans who shares shares:

✅ The loss of his mother and how it shaped his faith.

✅ Wrestling with God when prayers weren’t answered as expected.

✅ How worship in brokenness can lead to deep healing.

✅ The pressures of being a preacher’s kid and finding his own identity.

✅ His new album “Revive”, filled with songs that helped him heal.

If you’ve ever struggled with loss, doubt, or finding purpose, this episode is a must-listen—a raw and real discussion about trusting God in the hardest seasons of life.

STAY CONNECTED

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• Apple Podcasts: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/randy-phillips/1618265626

• Spotify Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/artist/13KLcr7XlewPs2Xva58AgU

Connect With Pastor Randy: https://www.instagram.com/randypcd/
Connect With Anthony Evans: https://www.instagram.com/anthonyevansjr/?hl=en

TIMESTAMPS

0:00 – The weight of grief & choosing to worship anyway

1:09 – Intro: Growing up as Dr. Tony Evans’ son

2:28 – Finding his own identity apart from family expectations

5:53 – Music in the Evans house: Gospel, Temptations & limited TV

9:01 – His first experiences with music & singing

12:05 – The wisdom & impact of his mother

14:43 – How his mother’s faith shaped the entire Evans family

18:02 – The pain of unanswered prayers

19:59 – His lowest moment: Doubting his faith after losing his mom

22:01 – Learning to be honest with God in grief

24:19 – The key to healing: Allowing yourself to feel

25:29 – New album “Revive”—songs that helped him heal

27:14 – The song “This Is My Thank You”—a tribute to his mother

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Welcome to Backstage with Randy Phillips - a lighthearted dialogue meant to inspire every heart and home to live a life of purpose.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE
In this deep and transparent conversation, Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo sit down with Randy Phillips to discuss the raw, realities of marriage—its struggles, healing, and breakthroughs.

They share:

✅ How their marriage nearly fell apart but was restored.

✅ The impact of pornography addiction and the road to healing.

✅ How losing their child shaped their faith and marriage.

✅ Why authenticity and vulnerability are crucial in Christian marriages.

✅ The 6 Pillars of Intimacy—a game-changing framework that has transformed marriages worldwide.

Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this episode will challenge & equip you to cultivate intimacy, fight for your marriage, and embrace God’s redemptive power.

STAY CONNECTED

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifefamilymedia/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LifeAustin

• Apple Podcasts: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/randy-phillips/1618265626

• Spotify Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/artist/13KLcr7XlewPs2Xva58AgU

Connect With Pastor Randy: https://www.instagram.com/randypcd/

Connect w/ the Tony & Alisa: https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/

TIMESTAMPS

0:00 – Intro: Why sharing your struggles frees others

1:09 – Tony & Alisa’s journey: 28 years of marriage & transformation

2:02 – The reality of marriage: same struggles, different seasons

3:33 – The impact of their podcast (15 years & counting!)

4:39 – What it feels like after pouring into marriages on stage

6:16 – The power of impacting just one marriage at a time

6:49 – How churches & couples find hope just before divorce

8:03 – Radical authenticity: How being open changes lives

10:33 – How they built a bold and unfiltered marriage ministry

12:53 – Do their kids get embarrassed? (Yes!)

14:43 – Why Christian couples need real conversations about sex

16:48 – Why the church needs to reclaim the conversation on intimacy

19:18 – The moment they realized God was calling them to this work

20:48 – Breaking down the Six Pillars of Intimacy

22:19 – Physical vs. Sexual Intimacy (Why they’re different!)

24:30 – Why pornography destroys marriages

27:48 – The emotional wounds of porn addiction & how to heal

29:00 – Losing their baby: The heartbreak, grief, and redemption

32:26 – How grief nearly tore them apart (and what saved them)

35:10 – Why financial intimacy is a top struggle for couples

37:44 – The pillar that shocks people the most (Spoiler: It’s not what you think!)

39:10 – 40 years of marriage wisdom from Randy Phillips

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